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What should I do after catching my husband at a bar?

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I work pm shift and have come home and my husbands not home and he wont answer his phone.I call the babysitter and he still hasnt picked up the kids. So in the wee morning hours he comes home drunk. So last friday I took off work and went to his job 3 hours befor he says he gets off. I saw his truck leaving and fallowed him. I called him just to say hi. He said oh I have to work late becaues a machine broke at work so I have to stay late, as he drove to the bar. I stayed outside in my car for 3 hours while he drank with co workers. I called more then 40 times and he wouldnt answer. Finally he answers. I said it sounds like you have been drinking? He says "thats why we have so many problems because your always acusing me of drinking while im at work". Id had it, I walked into the bar to the surprize of everyone, sat down next to him and said workin late huh? I dont know what to do. I can never trust him. He now says he lies because I get mad when he wants to drink with guys. No, I get mad because he drinks and drives, leaves work at 3 and does not come home until midnight. Leaves the kids at the sitters (his mom) and then asks me to help out with rent when he makes more then 2x what I make and I already pay 2 car payments and utillities with my check and just picked up a 2nd p/t job. Is this normal guy sh*t? He put it all on me when I was right all along. Along.