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The secret weapon

My son lives with his Dad 50% and Me, the mom, 50%. My son is getting older has admitted to me that his Dad spanks him with a belt. He makes him pull his underwear off and spanks him. He calls it his ‘secret weapon’. I hate this and find that I have to settle him down for days after getting him back into a non-hitting enviroment. We never hit or spank. Our son is scared and timmed in his Dad’s world where he is almost out of control and angry in our world. We need help. His dad will not listen to us and has only stopped spanking with the belt ‘temporarly’ while we are watching and listening. They still spank with their hands and have hit a 5 yr. old in the face. They believe that the kids should listen and have told me to ‘scare the hell out of him’ if he doesn’t listen. Is this going over the line or am I just being over protective? Thanks for the advise.

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Answer #1

I hate it when parents do that, it teaches the child that violence = power and I despise it.

No, you’re not overreacting. I suggest phoning child services and getting a lawyer and finding out about how to protect your child

Answer #2

god that’s such an old timey thing to do, I’m really sorry about your son and ex. you should really try calling child protective services or something, and don’t let him see your son for a while

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