All of my life, I have grown up with my father. He is a very strong, hard working man who tells it how he feels. For as long as I can remember, homosexuality has been looked down upon by him. Jokes about gays, mean gestures, and inapropriate actions are always coming from him. And for me, I didn't really like the jokes. I thought they were mean and disrespectful. I never thought that I had any homosexuality in me, but after meeting this man from NY, my whole thinking has changed. We even did stuff together. So, how am I going to tell my father, that I am gay?
Well, you need to trust that he is in fact your father. He loves you, and if he is a good father, he will accept you for who you are. Whatever you do, do not apologize. You have done nothing wrong, and if he chooses not to accept it, that is his problem. I am an aspiring lawyer that protects gay rights, so I am very passionate about this subject. You cannot control who you are, and as Americans, we should have learned through all the wars and conflict that discrimination based on sex, religion, race, etc. is never the right solution. Explain to him that this does not affect who you are as a person. You are still you despite which sex you are interested in. Sit him down, and simply tell him that you have come out, and that you are gay. I know I make this sound simple, but telling your father who you really are shouldn't be a very complicated task. I know you will be worried about doing this, but you need to rip the band-aid off to heal the wound. It may take a while for this to sink in, so don't expect him to suddenly act as if nothing ever happened. The most important thing is that despite what your father says, that you accept yourself. As long as you do that, the rest of things will eventually fall into place. Best of luck to you, and if you want to talk, feel free to fun mail me :) xx ~broadwaystar101
I just told my dad that I am gay yesterday, which was my 30th birthday. What a time to pick. I know. He is an old fashioned Greek man. I wasn't very surprised of his reaction because I know how Greek parents think. There is no easy or hard or better or worse way to say it in my opinion. You just come out and say it, and try your best to trust the person you are telling to take it accordingly. Maybe at first it won't be so, but eventually he or she will accept it teh best way they know how, but you can help educate them on the subject in the process. I am not saying it will work and go great, but hey, you try your best right?. He basically said that if I am happy than that is good but he will always feel sad for me, because I will never experience the joy of becoming a fther and having a family. In his opinion it is a dead end lifestyle of despair and sadness and regret. Whatever, I disagree but it is still early so I will leave him be.
Dear bjizzle720, First of all you don't especially if you think he will have a problem with this. Also you are really just getting to know yourself or perhaps your going through a periods where you needed someone and he was there at the time. When the time comes that you are in a very committed relationship with a male then consider telling him then. Sue...good luck
I have the same problem...I live wiht my dad sense I was 4 and my mom die if you find a good way to tell him send me a messge .. xdanix1@hotmail.com
