How are you supposed to choose which parent you want to live with when they decide to split up?

Thats not gonna happen with my parents

I really don’t think going back in forth is really good for anyone :/

If you dont wanna choose, let them choose for you. /:

go to one and then go to the other one everyother weekend. most ppl i kno do tht

……. :/

Which one respects you more or interacts with you more like a young adult instead of an old baby? I’d go with the more responsible and reasonable of the two.

My parents split up when I was younger. I didn’t have a choice in the matter like you do. I hope things turn out good for you.

I hope that doesn’t seem acidly sarcastic. I didn’t intend for that.

well I’m kind of in this situation too, what I did was went with the parent that treats me the best and cares for me the most (my mother) I’m currently with my dad for this year though, going back next year after school ends.. I hate it here -.-‘

What i did was think about which one i get along with better and am happier with. And in my case, it was my mom because with her i get along with her very well and shes my bestfriend. We’re really close. & with my dad; its not like that. dont get me wrong , i love them both to death. but i think you should think about which would make you happier, and not stress you out as much.

Just stay with Your mom… Mother knows best… Plus she Birth You & a mothers love has got to be greater than a Fathers love I mean Your dad loves You to death too but I think that moms just love their kids a little bit more than the kids dad lol

whichever your more comfortable talking with about private issues. im sorry that its happening, and that there making you choose :/ but maybe after a bit you will be able to switch back and forth. but you can always go visit the other parent.

I’m so sorry to hear you’re in that position, Carly. I still remember that moment, when I was 11yo, as one of the most painful in my life - whether I had any choice in the matter or not. Not only the decision of which parent to go with is very personal, but even the criteria by which to make that decision can be unique to your situation and family relationships.

Given that you are 18yo, and may not live with either parent for all that much longer, I think Devin makes a good point about leaning toward the one who you feel will give you better support in making the transition to young adulthood and greater independence from your family.

But if you’re still feeling torn about it, I recommend that you find a friend, here or elsewhere, who you trust enough to share more personal information about it with, and talk it through with them in greater detail about the pros and cons of your choices. You could probably also do that with the family court judge or whoever is presiding over the divorce proceedings, or with an advocate that they appoint for you, to look out for your interests in the process.

Of course, you can do it here, too, if that feels comfortable to you.

G!d be with you.

Live at whichever parent has better means to house you and feed you, and visit the other whenever you can.

You could just NOT choose if it is that hard. Live with another relative i mean. I live with my grandparents. Of course it is a completely different situation but still.

You could just NOT choose if it is that hard. Live with another relative i mean. I live with my grandparents. Of course it is a completely different situation but still.