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I think I've found the root of my "problems" my period concern I asked about and stuff along those lines - I'm big time stressed out. There's a lot of stuff going on right now in my life I'm having problems with this guy, I'm worried about a good friend, there's a certain situation that's been going on for a hella long time that's really starting to get to me, and on top of that money is pretty tight right now. Sounds like stuff that would cause someone to be stressed, right? Well, I have no idea how to deal with a lot of this stuff. There's choices that need to be made, but I don't know what the "right thing to do" is and such. I get annoyed and confused and plain flat out pissed about it. I'll admit I already have anger problems I have had for as long as I can remember. When I get mad - it's a HORRIBLE sight. I get pretty violent most of the time too. I actually scare people when I get mad. I'm guessing that probably doesn't help matters does it? So my question here is how do I deal with all this going on at once? How do I handle things to help keep me from getting stressed? And how do I get all my anger issues settled?
Any help/advice would be very apperciated =/
First off, take a few deep breaths. Just breathe a while. Feels good doesn't it?
When we get angry and stressed we forget to breathe. We forget to take two steps back and just return to the basic elements in life breathing and drinking water (very helpful!). I know it sounds a bit silly but taking that little extra time to concentrate on something else then what is stressful or making us angry can really help us make better decisions. (ex.: going for a walk instead of screaming) Excercise is another great way to get stress down and deal with anger.
Also, you need to look at priorities here. What happens is that you've put everything as a must get this fixed, or deal with this right away level. You can't deal with it all at the same time, no one can. That's why you've got to prioritize stuff and just plain get rid if the stuff you can't change without even straining yourself more (ex.: worrying about a friend isn't going to help you nor them, let it go until you've got your stuff together then you can concentrate on them, if the guy is getting you down then just plain dump him or take a break until you less stressed). Write down every problem you've got and try to see them as situations that can or can not be changed. Then write down how you can change them to make you happier or make life easier. Try keeping just one or two priorities until they have been solved don't put anymore on the top of the list.
Last but not least, what about counseling? talking to someone? Have you tried this, talking things through and about what makes us angry can really help to learn the triggers and then how to deal with our feelings. It also helps us take the burden off our shoulders because instead of keeping it all inside until we explode, we get out there where better solutions can be found. Afterall feeling angry is a normal human response to different situations. Like you said it's more in how we deal with that anger and even more important how we organize our life to feel less angry.
Here are a few great sites I found. I hope they can help: http://www.pe2000.com/anger.htm http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/anger-management/Pages/Introduction.aspx?url=Pages/what-is-it.aspx http://work911.com/anger/ http://www.apa.org/topics/controlanger.html http://hcd2.bupa.co.uk/factsheets/html/managinganger.html
Sounds like me too. When I get pissed I end up fighting with someone or punching my metal door that leads to the basement. Lol. I would just take a punching bag and hang it in the basement and punch it and if no one is there punch and scream. Second best thing to do when your mad is that... Good luck..
