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Is there still hope for us being friends?

Hi, About one week ago, my good friend (guy) asked me out (girl) and I said no, but not in a mean way. I told him that I really liked him but the reason I HAD to say no was because of parental reasons and the fact that I could not handle having a boyfriend right now. He said that things would always be awkward between us now and it definately has been. I tried to still keep in contact with him because I still wanted to be his good friend. We send little messages to each other but sometimes it doesnt seem like he wants to talk to me and other times it does. When I see him, it seems as though I have to start the conversation first otherwise he would kind of ignore me. A week later, after the “incident,” I sent him a message saying was feeling sad and to go get ice cream, so we did. On his xanga (an online journal), he wrote, “why do I smile?? to make you smile too.. even though.. that’s not how I feel…. “ So my question is, Do you think there is still hope in us still being friends? Or is it always going to be awkward between us and that he doesn’t want to be my friend? Another thing, the girls he have asked out in the past, they aren’t speaking to each other anymore. Is there a possibility it can be different with me?

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Answer #1

Well for the first while, it will be awkward. He just took it hard and didnt know how to react because I dont think he thought you’d turn him down. So just let him think for a while, and though your friendship won’t be as strong as before, he will warm back up to you. Just be patient and he will come around.

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Answer #2

well from experience from myself, i think he is trying to make you feel bad and he wants you to say yes about going out with him. just take it over in person alone and get your feelings about him and his feeling about you and just tell eachother everything then it wont be so akward cause everyone knows everything. GOOD LUCK!

Answer #3

say this “why r u treating me different, I like you, but why does that have to ruin what we had, your making it awkward, i wanna be your friend it hurts me when u ignore me like this I dont wanna lose what we had we can forget about the whole thing, I need to get to know you better and my parents have to accpet when im older that il be ready who knows your an awesome guy and theres chances for us, but please just lets have what we had i miss it. I miss you i miss hanging out with you, dont do this to us if u care about me because i care about you and i dont want us to end up like the other girl because our friendship matters to me.. aLOT” :) and ask him to hang out alot.

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