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Should we be worried?

My dad wrote this note to my mom on Facebook, should we be worried about him?(my parents are still together, he just wrote it on there when she was at work and I was at my friends house)

“just a note to say how sorry I am for all of this if I could I would go back in time this has not been fair to you or steph I should have never said a word to you it has been so long since we laughed I am not sure I can even do it any more you know maybe dad was right along time ago maybe I am nothing but a disappointment all I seem to do is bring people down again I am so sorry”

In the part where he was “I should have never said a word to you”… he just found out that he might have AIDS because he got stabbed with a needle (it fell out of a garbage bag at work) and ever since he told us everything has been different.

What can I do to help my family? :( (Doctors and lawyers are already involved)

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Answer #1

Dear stephanief987, I really understand your concern and wanting to help…but there are just things that you cannot control or try to. Your dad is suffering from shock at this time and depression. This is understandable. He is pulling things out of the past because it is easier to say he was a failure so he can easily move away from the family while he is ill thinking that this would be easier for you guys. Of course you need to get into counselling, all of you ASAP. What he is saying and doing is normal for his situation, how you are feeling is scared and confused this is also normal. Your family needs to make it quite clear that no matter how hard he pushes you are not moving back or even pushing back but will (with help) understand what he is going through. It is complicated for sure and without the proper guidance it will be too much of a struggle. There is plenty of help out there for you all, get it and use it. Sue…good luck

Answer #2

What you all are going thru is a shame and if you don’t mind I want to add you all to my prayer list.

Right now your dad, and your mom, needs the family together as a whole. You are facing a few very scary months not knowing what the results will be. Should you be worried? Shoot yeah! If you weren’t then there would be something wrong with you. He needs your support right now. He is very confused and afraid of the future for all of you. Whatever he does, don’t let him push you and your mom away. He might get a little argumentative, but know that is the fear talking. It’s not how he feels about you all.

If you need a shoulder you know how to find me!

Answer #3

he needs you now more than ever and needs to know that you need him. just make sure he knows that you are there for him. talk to him a lot and go to him with problems or ask him for help on something. spend time with him and let him know that you love him and care about him.

Answer #4

Steph, you’re a very strong person. I’ve seen so much evidence of that on here, and from the little I know of you, you have a great relationship with your parents. Talk your dad as much as possible. He needs to know that you need him. I cant imagine what you all must be going through.

Answer #5

I think the most you can do… is to just keep things normal and fun!!… don’t dwell on the situation, cause that will just bring the family down. instead… have and share more family time, like go on an outing (since its getting warm) or go out for dinner!! anything to ease the mind off the situation, to bring the family close together, and to make sure your daddy has all the love he needs!!

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