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Should I tell my best guy friend why I hate my life?

I hate my life. I was molested when I was 6-9. Im extremely self-consious. My mom has severe depression, where she has VERY bad hygiene and she doesn’t cook or anything. My crazy, terrible grandma has to live with us which means we can’t goo anywhere and do nothing. I cut myself at times. My dad cheated on my mom AND didn’t tell us about our half-brothers/sisters. My dad said it was a mistake but how can you make the same mistake 4 times with the same woman.? Were poor. Im ugly but a bit popular for sum reason.. My family is VERY dysfunctional. This is why I hate my life soo much.. Should I tell my best guy friend thiis? Hes really understanding and can give me advice on anything..

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Answer #1

Dear youmakemyheartskipabeat ,

I would like to call you and talk to you on the phone about this since in person is not possible…but I do not know how you would feel about this. Fun mail me is you want to consider it.

I have had a similar past in some ways. My parents got devorced when I was about 6 years old my mother had cheated and wanted to marry my step Dad.

I was molested fromt he time I was five till I was nine and then Raped from nine till 15 when I moved out. I ended up in foster care where I was again abused and neglected not as bad as I had been at my parents but none the less. I aged out of foster care Feb.22, 2008 when I turned 18years old.

I have seen theparist and pychologist on and off my entire life,a and to be honest out of the many ( and there have been many over 20) only one ever was able to help me ( and he still does). I am not going to recoment that you seek professional help, I do think it would be useful but more then anything you need to talk to some who can really relate to you on some level of pain and exsperience and what not.

If you do seek professional help I would highly Recomend Dr. BRad Klontz. ( he is a very realy persona and not a text book.) if you type his name in the search bar a bunch of things will come up. I would e-mail him a little bit. He can really give you some good insite on how our brains work as well as life.

What you are going through is not easy, and all I can really say is not to give up and that in the end you will come out a lot stronger. I mean it and I know it for a fact you have to endore this to see the good that will come out of it latter on and you are better then this and deserve better too.

you may hate your life now and I understand that ( I hated the first 18 years of mine) but you will be given a chance to create your own life and a family of Choice..one day and that is worth waitting for.

My Mother also has chronic depression…among a few other mental illnesses as one would call them…she does not exsept reality and denighs everything the abuse and neglect..She says I am dead to her think her oldest child and that she does nto know me…we do not talk in fact I live in hawaii and she lives in Guam. She has abandoned me more then once and left me for dead several times. Just goes to show mOthers are not always perfect. and people make mistakes.

I am sorry that your Mother is not there for you and that your father is cheatting and has kids behind your backs that is awful. I know how much it hurts to be hurt by our families there is no one who can hurt you more then that of your parents it is the attatchment that we have to them that hurts us when they fail or let us down.

I have not seen a picture of you but I high dought you are ugly…You are a beautiful child of GOD. Created to manifest the glory of God within you.

I am not a very religous person…my Mother and step father do not even beleive in God..and where as my Biological father and his side of the family do..he died almst four years ago ( when I needed him the most right before I was placed under CPS) and his side of the family and I do not get along…where as we beleive in the same God our choice in beliefs are not the same and so they do not talk to me for it. stupid I no.

I know that family hurts some times but be thankful that you still ahve yours. I am going to be missing my sisters ( 2 of them) birthdays this month and then my Little brothers( 1 of them) next month, and it deeply pains me that as there big sister I can nto be there for them. You still have your family and so there is still a hope that you guys can mend your wounds.

Work towards healing eachother okay. There are many things I would like to say to you to encourage you to stay strong, and sadly I do not have the time right now…I have to go to work. But Hang in there stay strong. If you think I could help shoot me an E-mail. I would love to chat with you some time online ( I have most Messengers) or on the phone ( I can call)…Peace be with you take care God Bless.

Oh and yes you should tell your friend along with any one else you think could help.

Good luck and may you find what you are looking for.

Answer #2

I think you should tell your friend. They’ll help you through it if they’re a good friend. And one more thing to say- cutting yourself IS NOT going to solve anything. If you need to talk to me, fun mail me. I’ll be here! <3

Answer #3

I think you should tell him… but don’t talk about too much because it annoys people when you whine. but I think you should DEFINITLY ask for help and stuff

Answer #4

I fink ushould tell your best friend he/she will help you as much as you can and talking about your problems take a hole load off your shoulders, I use to self harm an I use to think it helped but it doesnt it just causes more problems and by the sounds of it your having a pretty ruff time. I think you should go and see a therapist about urself harming which I did and it helps to talk to somebody that you dont know, because they dont judge you and they help you deal with your problems in a certain way rather than hurting urself and bottleing things up good luck hunny! xx

Answer #5

I WOULD

Answer #6

Here is a poem that might help…

I feel like a sex toy’ That is all I ever really was’ Held down’ And played with’ No feelings or emotions’ Just a hollow body’ A child’s mind’ And my heart wrenching screams’ That tore me apart’ No one ever heard me’ Or so it seems’

Used’ And tossed to the side’ Always trying to run and hide’ Scared’ And scared’ My soul forever taken’ By one too many people’ Who took me forsaken’

I will never be the same’ I’m torn to little pieces’ Pieces’ of me’gone’ Lost’

My mind is like a whirlwind’ Never really slowing down’ My heart is frozen’ From the hate’ I need this all to end Before it’s all too late’

These memories attacking me’ Driving me insane’ I just want this all to make sense’ This little girl’ Used’ And abused’ Simply tossed away’ I was doomed from the start’ I never knew’ What love was’ And now My sick and twisted perception Maybe holding me back from all that I love’

Worthless’ Useless’ Merely a toy’ Just some guy’s fun’ Is all I ever was’ My voice gone’ I could never speak’ This pain is restless’ It hasn’t stopped in weeks’

No one understands How dark my world is’ How I cannot escape My worst nightmares’ My dreams have always Been crushed’ I wish I could slit my wrists And watch the blood rush’

I can’t give up I need to fight’ No matter how much My body is shaken in fright’

Just a sex toy’ Just a little girl’ Her innocence’ Stolen ‘ Her memories’ Forgotten’ Twelve years’ Later’ It’s all attacking me’ Forced to be a toy’ So easily destroyed’

A little girl’ A child’ A baby’ Simply grew up’ Was tossed into This unknown world’ It was time for me to be a big girl’ No more dolls’ And candy land games’ I had to listen’ Or my Punishment was always’ Extreme’

Scared to speak’ Paralyzed in fear’ Afraid to acknowledge All I know to be real’ Running away from all that I’m afraid of’. LIFE

Answer #7

thats preety screwed up no oofence you should see a therapast so you stop cuttign your slef ans stuff also consult your best friend if he really is your best friend he will try to help if not he will probably not care ok hoped it helped

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