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Ok I am a teen and my girl friend and I have een talkin about havin children we both want but are both in high school so what should I do but I could support my kid or kids but no place to live my parents would kick me out and would it tear us apart thnks
That's great you both want children but ask yourself why a few times until you find the source of your desire there. Having children is like having 2 full time jobs on top of your current full time job. They demand constant attention and you can't control them, believe me, you can only guide and direct them.. and to do that you need experience... not brains or ideas. With experience you'll be able to show your kids how to live, interact, work hard, respect, be responsible, and how to be when THEY become an adult. Do you see where you are like your parents? It's inevitable that whatever parents you have you'll learn how to interact and how to handle life's stresses from them. Experience is where you'll learn to improve yourself beyond your previous understanding. It's a long road... and you'll need a STRONG foundation to raise your kids on. What I mean by a strong foundation is to have reliable food, shelter, and clothing that you provide legally. As well as personality, patience, respect, responsibility... all these I consider to be within the word "Love". SO in order to teach your children what love is... they have to see it in action... so that mean's you'll have to be doing all this. Unless you're a millionaire and don't have to work... only one of you will be able to do some school while the other works... and in this economy that's REALLY difficult because in order to survive many households have both parents working as the kids are in school. Wait until both of you are done with high school, try to get scholarships and go to college (both of you) to get a white collar job if you can. Or be a blue color worker and your girlfriend can work and live with you until she has your child... then allow her to stay at home to raise your child (or children) so your kids can get the attention they need and so you save TONS of money on child care. And Believe me, Day care is no place to raise your children...
One thing commanly over looked in this situation...
FAMILY
These last 3 generations have continually been leaning OFF of the previous generations experience.. meaning these new generation are not talking with their grand parents and parents enough on how to raise a family... some instances it's better to read a book and seek counseling... but for the most part... the elderly are the GEMS of the generations as they have SO MUCH experience to offer. They may have done things wrong, or right... it's up to you to learn from their experience so you can BETTER YOUR life and the life of your children and children's children.
Sincerely, David E Levy
ok, so you can support a child but would have no place to live? You cannot support a child if you have no place to live because supporting a child includes having a place to live...
So. Things a child needs is food, clothing, diapers, medicine, toiletries, What are you going to need while you're supporting this child, shelter, food, electricity, water, clothes, toiletries, phone service, so in total look at spending a minimum of 2000 dollars for you and your kid per month. Unless you're working full time and it isnt a minimum wage job, you CANNOT support your child. So, grow up, stop whining about not being understood (sorry, but have you ever heard your dad complain about his parents just not getting him? no, because he's an adult with a child, you dont whine when you've got children)
At 13 they will put your girl friend in foster care if she gets kicked out, and I really wouldnt count on being with her for any amount of time... and no, sorry, you cannot sign a rental agreement or lease an apartment at 13, so how are you planning on living?
Well, I think you pretty much just answered your own question, no you shouldn't have kids yet. Being able to financially support your children is very important, but there's more to it than that. You and your girlfriend are in high school. If your parents would 'kick you out', who would watch this baby while you two went to school? Where would you live after you came home from school? You can't expect all the responsibility to be on your girlfriend's parents, and you don't want to destroy the relationship you have with them or with your own parents. Teen pregnancy happens to a lot of people, and it works out for the most part, but I'm sure if you asked any one of them they wish they would have waited. You have your whole life to have children, wait until you're not still a child yourself.
I beenn talkiing about kids wiith myy boyfriend too,ii thiink thats veryy cutee. ii thiink thatt youu should see whats best for youu guyss andd iif your really meantt too beee.ii kindaa thiinkk youu shouldd waiit too youu fiiniishh highh schholl thoo thats veryy importantt.good luuckk
you mite think you want a little baby now, but its a lot harder than it seems, I no it would be cute just you and your girfriend with a little baby to look after but that baby needs 24/7 care and attention. you should finish school and get a job first
Wait until you're older with your own home and have a stable job.
A crowded house with your parents wouldn't exactly be a nice environment for your baby, would it now?
Wait until you finish school and get a job or you'll have a gigantic problem that'll last for 20 years or more.
