Privacy Invasion

A dairy is a NO that’s yours and it’s personal phone messages and email’s on the other hand I can kinda understand I mean they don’t want there 11-15 year or even older sitting there possibly getting threatening messages or having sexual convo’s with weird people online

of course I pay for the bill!!!

That’s what makes it so stupid. Plus, they do read my diary and call people off my bill and go through my room. I’m so TIRED of it

I think just want to protect you

I no how you feel!!!they do it because they luv you and dont want anyone 2 ever hurt u. lil do you no that every minute a child or even teen is being molested and abused and kidnapped and tortured. give them a break for looking out 4 ya. every parent has 2 do this or they woodnt be good 1s. im not trying to sound grown but it is the truth even if I try to deny it sumtimes but I no they do it for good causes

To me this is about boundries. If you pay the bill, and It’s your phone, then you have a right to your own privacy. If it was my parents, I would say… When you go through my phone or read my diary I feel.. (whatever it is..angry..violated ect..) Tell them how you feel in a totally calm and non attacking/defensive way.. this is really important, regardless of whether they agree or not. My parents are who they are, nothing has changed accept the way I communicate with them, and we have a much better relationship as a result. Boundry setting is about taking care of yourself, without offending others. Good Luck.. I hope this helps, Rowena.

I consider it to be an invasion of privacy. They say there only doing it to protect you though. I think my mom looks through my room. I asked her if she would ever read my diary. She said she wouldn’t only if she felt that it there was something going on that she needed to know about. I don’t like the fact that shes all up in my business either. One time she read my texts and I told her to stop and she said she’s the parent so it’s her business to know who I’m talking to. But we kind of have to live with it.

well if you pay for your own phone they would have no right to do this.

If YOU buy the gun then your parents should have no right to tell you how to use it???

You are 14. It IS your parents responsibility to do their BEST to protect you and make sure that you are being raised as properly as possible in our society.

That means that, yes they can search your room, your purse, your phone and your computer. That is a right and a responsibility that they have until you become 18 and leave their jurisdiction.

You are at an age where you think YOU know it all. That’s not true. Your parents, too, may not know it all but they do know more and have a lot more experience than you. They are much better able to judge what may be okay or what may be a threat to you.

You won’t agree but it is really about their loving you and not wanting to see you get involved in anything that can harm you.

Especially with your mom, start communicating with her. Confide in her and trust the fact that she is there for you. She used to be your age. She knows what you’re going through. Trust her and you may be surprised at how helpful she can really be.

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