How can I get my parents to give me privacy?

My mom and dad don’t give me any privacy, at all. I’m 13 and my mom treats me like i’m 6 years old. I don’t know how to get privacy. Iike yeasterday while I was at school my mom went up in my room and read my diary how gay is that So how do I get some privacy?????????????????????????????????

                                                      Luz
                                                            ya,
                                                                kcmsgirlygirl
Answer #1

Usually moms read your diary to find out about you, to see if you are doing stuff that is bad for you, or to find out if you are having problems that you are too embarassed or ashamed to tell your mom about. She just loves you. I’m not sure if I agree to her reading your diary though- I think thats a bit bad- unless you never talk to her and are behaving weirdly and this is the only way she can try to find out why. Does she suspect you might be taking drugs or making out with boys perhaps? have you been missing school and she wants to know that you are not going somewhere dangerous instead? I always encouraged my kids to talk to me and would never go into their personal things. I was lucky that they always did feel safe to share all kinds of stuff with me. Tell your mom that you feel invaded by her reading your diary, that if she wants to know stuff about your life , she should ask you about it. . Learn to talk to your mom- if she ever judges you or gets mad, then say ‘ mom, I need you to understand and support me, if you judge me or get mad, then evenually I will stop telling you about my life ‘

Answer #2

Then don’t write anything personal in your diary. Some things are better left unwritten - and eventually forgotten.

Either that or carry your diary to school.

Answer #3

Hide your diary.

Hey I’m 20, my parents still treat me like I’m 12. It’s why they’re called “parents”

Answer #4

Not gay at all - it’s called being a parent - one who cares and is looking after your (her daughter) best interests - obviously Loves you enough to care - Be thankful, many, many, many, DO NOT have a parent who cares…Take care !!

Answer #5

okay… im just going to say it. YOUR 13! YOU DON’T NEED PRIVACY!

Answer #6

When I was eight, my mom asked me, “Can I read your diary?

“No.”

She chuckled. “What kind of secrets can an eight-year-old have?”

I took offense at the time, but now I agree. I’ll say that a thirteen-year-old does need SOME privacy - and you probably do have juicier secrets than I did when I was eight - but in the end a parent reserves the right to snoop around her room. You can take precaution by hiding your diary, but your mom is just trying the best she can to be a good parent. I mean, she’s not out there spreading every page of your diary all over the Internet for your friends and your enemies to see… is she?

Dum-dum-dum.

Answer #7

Just tell your mum outright. Say that you really don’t want her reading your diary - if you want to talk to her about it, you will. You can use the counter-argument “Would you like me reading your diary? NO. SO don’t read mine.”

If all else fails, hide your diary better, or get a key lock one, and carry the key on you. Good luck!

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