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why would the first wife allow his husband to marry a second or third? whats in it for her (the second or third wives) ? Why would a women marry a man that already has a wife and kids?
A friend of mine who has one wife and kids has been approached by several younger women for a polygamous relationship. With monogamous marriage proven to be a dismal failure at 65% divorce rate (and that's just those who even bother to get married!) they see him as being a far safer choice than just risking every thing on some guy who's only claim to fame is he's had sex with a bunch of girl friends. With my friend, they can plainly see how he treats his wife (and there fore, how he'll treat her after X number of years of marriage), and also what kind of father he is.
So no guessing, no taking chances, no risk.
Just good old fashioned Big Love, baby!
Hmm this is a complicated question... From the examples I've seen, it's usually women who are not so wealthy, and they have these rich guys offering them a better life... they're younger so the men tend to pay more attention to them than their first wives... I mean they're getting all the stuff and the attention... the question is why on earth would the first wife stand for it... usually because they dont have a choice... (it's like wives who stay with their husbands who have mistresses...)
Because in their relgions and in their customs, it is normal. Most of them don't even give it a second though, just as how we dont give a second though to only having one wife.
What's in it for them: I can think of a few things lol -You have someone else to please your husband when your not in the "mood" -There's more women to help with the housework -There's more women to help with the cooking -You get more time to yourself
lol
A polygmist doesn't view marriage the same way as the traditional definition of marriage.
Those women don't choose how many wives her husband has - that's his decision, and she is meant to submit.
If the woman is ok with it than to each their own. However I know in many of these marragies the woman is supprest and 2nd class
Traditionally, men married for sex, and women married for provision. That still works in a polygamous relationship.
