I'm sad and stressed, I can't handle it all

Right now I feel I don’t know sad. I’m having some boytrouble, super stressfull week coming up and my mom is soon having her check-up after having surgery, chemotherapy and radiation… And my bestfriend has for several months ditched me for others

I just feel like nothing really matters… Tears are running and I just feel like I can’t handle everything right now. I wish I was somewhere else where everything was perfect

Please , any advice now would help

Answer #1

You need to take it one thing at a time. Having too much on your mind is what’s bringing you down, analyze everything separately. As for your “best friend”, if she ditched you then it really doesn’t seem like she’s a “best” friend. Have you talked to her to find out why? Try that, maybe her answer will surprise you and if she comes back with something ignorant then move on…you don’t need her anyway. When it comes to your mom I can kind of understand what you’re going through (my mom is in the final stages of kidney failure). It’s hard and scary but you need to talk to her, right now you need your mother. I’m sure that she will be fine and hopefully the doctor’s got it all.

Having a perfect life is only a dream, nobody has one. Try to separate your problems in your mind and think about them like that. It will make things easier. Maybe you should also consider talking to a therapist. But try to remember that talking helps, no matter who you talk to.

Answer #2

Fun Mail a “sounding board”!

I would assume that you can’t talk about what you are going through with anyone because it is too personal and you don’t want others to know about it in relation to you.

The solution, then, might be to pick someone on Fun Advice whose advice you like and Fun Mail them. (You can check out the quality of someone’s advice by clicking on their name; going down to their recent advice, click on view all, then click on the questions that might interest you and view their answers.) Explain to them that you are having problems and want to have someone to use as a “sounding board” and would like to know if they would be willing to be your sounding board. Fun Mail is basically private, so you shouldn’t have any concerns about your privacy.

Although there are many users on Fun Advice who would be qualified, I’d suggest the person be an Advisor, for two reasons: First, most Advisors have several hundred or even thousands of Answers under their belt which can really give you a perspective about them; and second, you can simply click on the Advisors link at the top of the page and view a list of the most recently active Advisors with information about them AND a total of their Answers. (Don’t contact them by that “Ask me a question” link. That’s public. Instead, click on their name which will take you to their Profile page, then click on the “Send me Fun Mail” link on the left side of the page.)

You also have the ability to Fun Mail anyone (Advisor or otherwise) by clicking on the “Send me Fun Mail” link near the top of the Answer under the person’s name.

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