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Should my parents be involved in my relationship?

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I'm concerned about how much my parents think I'm not ready to pursue into a relationship. I'm 20 and my bf is 19, they don't want me to make decisions and it's really complicated to deal with. So technically I'm going to list you guys a few things my parents constantly repeat to me.

- "He's a stranger, you don't know him entirely yet and he doesn't know you." [With this I can see that's true...we've only been together for almost 5 months. We do stuff as much as we can and see each other and talk 24/7. They want to change that...]

- "He's controlling you." [There's no proof of him controlling me whenever we hangout. The way my parents see it is he asks me to do something for him and I do it. How hard is that? :L]

- "You have no idea who he's been with, what he has and you are not taking demand and focusing on yourself" [Where the heck did that come from? I'm pretty sure I know the consequences of what will happen if I don't watch out for myself, but this is just ridiculous. I took health and education regarding the classes I remember, it's as if my parents still don't think I know what would happen]

....Pretty much I'm stuck on this, I have a feeling that I'm an adult now, I should be able to make my own decision..we are very close me and my bf and I feel as if with my parents constant reminders is gonna eventually hurt me more and I'm probably gonna lose him over the fact my parents don't give a damn. They don't want me happy? As it seems, they are tearing away my confidence I have within myself and it's stressful. It's really bugging me because I don't want to lose him, he's my first and even my mom told me in the beginning, "You should play the field"/ That is not me and I don't want to change that. I really need help before I lose it.