Why do parents always want to know how you feel?

My parents are always butting into my business. If I want you to know if something’s going on, I’ll let ya know. I have depression issues anyway that they don’t know about and everytime they ask me if I’m ok or try to get involved in my life, it just gets worse. I’ve actually been emo and suicidal before because of them. What should I do to get them off my back?

Answer #1

As specific as you’ve been in the question, all I can really say is that your parents are trying to fulfill their one major job in the world, to take care of their children. Everything their children does concerns them, because they want you to have a happy life and to grow up and become successful in what you like. Your interests are always in the back of their mind, I suppose. Maybe because of your recent suicidal thoughts they’ve gotten even more cautious because of the reason before.

Answer #2

Because its thr job as ur parent to be concerned about u in many differant aspects, if my parents didn’t ask me things like that I wud think they didn’t care

Answer #3

You should show them this. Show the question you wrote. They want to know how you feel because they are worried and don’t understand. How would you feel if you were unable to do nothing for your daughter at her darkest times? Would you let her do whatever she wants, and simply watch till she hangs herself? Your parents want to take action before you attempt death. They want you to experience life.

Answer #4

they are just looking out for you , they are your parents thats what they should be doing, they love you … I bet you anything that if your parents weren’t butting in your life and didn’t care and never asked you how you feel,,, you would feel unloved and would get suicidal and emo and this out of third because you feel alone … so just be grateful with what you have because most teens and kids out there don’t have parents who actually care about them !

Answer #5

They are just asking, because they care about you, especially with your depression issues. Try calmly talking to them and saying your OK and that when you do start to feel suicidal/depressed you will definitely approach them (but make sure you really do mean this!!). If you explain that their constant attention is making things worse, I’m sure they will understand and back off. Remember they love you and just want the best things for you. It can be very devastating to have a child going through emotional stuff and they just want to help.

Answer #6

I wonder that to myself a lot of times, as well. I think it’s because they want to feel like they have done a good job on raising our messed up generation, so they try to ask questions. Little do they know… we don’t want to be bothered.

Answer #7

They ask you because they care. Although I’m sure sometimes they show it in crummy ways, your parents love you and only want what’s for the best. If they see you’re hurting, they want to be there. It’s difficult for them, though, because I’m sure they’re not sure how to be there.

If you want them off of your back, let them into your life a little. Give them something to work with so that they’re not left guessing and wondering. You don’t have to go into details, just let them know you’ve had a bad day. I’m sure they’d appreciate anything they get.

Answer #8

because generally as a teenager you dont tell them anything about how you feel or how your lifes going, they just just guess or assume. talk to them more and be open with them

Answer #9

Your parents are asking you how you feel because they care. You may look at some annoying plot just to get into your business, but it’s not that. Be happy that you have parents that actually care. As for you being Emo and suicidal, don’t blame that on your parents. You being in that state is on YOU. Your parents shouldn’t be the reason why you kill yourself. You shouldn’t even be thinking like that in the first place. Be grateful for what you have, because one day, your not gonna have it.

Answer #10

no no no. tht would just make EVERYTHING worse

Answer #11

IKR? they need to just give us our space and privacy.

Answer #12

I don’t understand how this answer could be “liked”. It didn’t even answer the question, just stated an agreed opinion….

Answer #13

And your point is? Simply stating an opinion. Sorry if it doesn’t meet your standards, pal.

Answer #14

It is just to ask and now a formality. may be his kind to introduce to talk and chat first

Answer #15

because they want to be their for you show that they love you and that your not alone. try to talk to them express your feeling at them cry on their shoulder if you need too. they will alwase be their for you but they can sometimes go to far so just tell them that everything is alright with a smile . then hopfuly they will leave you alone x

Answer #16

yea. Sometimes agreement is the best help. So f*&% off!

Answer #17

Lol. Thanks(:

Answer #18

no prob. It’s soo true.

Answer #19

no prob. It’s soo true.

Answer #20

they son’t “Show love for me”

Answer #21

they son’t “Show love for me”

Answer #22

they don’t know about my deppression or anything else

Answer #23

They don’t know about my depression.

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