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My Mum said she wouldn't do this to me!

My parents have been divorced for three years, and I really don’t like my mum’s boyfriend, I hate it when he comes round, the atmosphere is horrible and I really hate it.

My mum has tried to dump him three times, but he has talked her into staying with him, and she knows that I do not like him, and she has always told me that if any of her children didn’t like any of her boyfriends, then she would dump them immediately because she puts us first.

But now she is not and she is really hurting me, she just doesn’t know how this makes me feel, she is doing exactly what my dad has done.

I see my dad every two weeks, and my mum always slags him off for being with his girlfriend when we are with him, when we did not like her (now we are alright with her), she always said that it was terrible how he put her first, before us and how he concentrated more on her on the weekends that we are with our dad than with us, but that is exactly what she is doing now!

I hate him, she pushes us aside whenever she is on the phone to him, I just thought that she would always be there for me, but she doesn’t care.

She pays a LOT less interest in me when her boyfriend is around, she is putting him before me and she said that she would never do that! Then the last time he came round, I was really quiet because, it was MOTHERS DAY in the Uk, and he turned up without warning, so I barely even got to see my mum! I was really upset, but then once he left, she said to me that he thinks that I don’t like him, and that I should talk to him more and I need to act more mature, just like what my dad said to me once which really upset me, and now she is doing it!

What should I do???

Thanks

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Answer #1

oh wow sounds like whathapened wit my older bro’s issue witour mom put it happened before I was born-yeh he’s old buut anyway if the are resonable tlk 2 her about it and when she trys to dump him stay by her side and if she is like my mom well either your screwd or have a lil tlk wit that dude!

Answer #2

wow thats a hard one try maybe I would hate too but threstening yur mother saying if she does not pay more attention to you u are going to move in with yur dad or run away or just make her sit down and talk.

hope I helped good luck!!!

Answer #3

oh wow sounds like whathapened wit my older bro’s issue witour mom put it happened before I was born-yeh he’s old buut anyway if the are resonable tlk 2 her about it and when she trys to dump him stay by her side and if she is like my mom well either your screwd or have a lil tlk wit that dude!

Answer #4

Sorry, but I’m going with prettyshy on this one… Your mother is a person (yes really, like a living breathing human being who needs more than just you), she needs companionship and to be involved in a romantic relationship too. Becoming your mother doesnt mean the rest of her died. I know you think she should live and breathe just for you, she should just be happy with just you, but guess what, you kinda need to grow up and realize that she derives happiness from other things, and you need to allow her this happiness. My advice? grow up before you deprive your mother of happiness… you will get older, move out of the house, live your life, and your selfishness will lead to her being alone… for the rest of her life

Answer #5

well it sounds like guy is not the problem… the problem is you… you didnt want your mom and dad divorce and they did so you dont want to see your mom with another guy.. but she does find a boyfriend and because of that you desire more attention from your mom so she can stay away from him..if this is the case here is the solution ( try and talk to the guy,, think about your mom needs etc.. am sure if you get to know him things willl feel better… if its as what you said..then talk to your mom.. tell her how you feel… am sure she will understand… and if it doesnt change tell heer you want to live with your dad… but what happens when dad got his girlfren??? will you hate her???

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