ok, it hasnt always been this way. I have two boys one girl. ages 14, 12, and 6 {6 is the girl} and e way...my boys totally have no respect. I dont ask very much, really. here is a typical day: wake up, tell them to get up, make them breakfast, ask them to clean THEIR mess, tell them to brush their teeth & put on deoderant {yes I still have to remind them daily} get em off to school. when they come home they have a snack, I ask if they have homework{they usually say no} we have dinner, I have to tell them to shower, brush their teeth again deoderant again. you would think by this age they could do all this without the daily reminders. PLUS the disrespectful way they talk to me. they dont swear at me or tell me no, but they complain about EVERYTHING!!! this/that aignt fair, he did this, he did that, they are verry snotty when talking to me, and in general are just very hateful. I do not spank them, but I DO take privlidges away. and just a few days ago, I started making them write sentences for their lack of respect for me. im at my wits end and dont know what else to do. ANY advise will help thanks :) OH if you are about the same age as my boys { 12 &14} please let me know what you think I shud do. thanks :)
Well, I'm not a boy. But I am a 14 year old girl and just a reminder all kids their age are going through puberty and all of that fun stuff. They don't even realize they are being disrespectful. I don't when I talk fresh to my parents. It's just a phase teenagers go through, I'm sure you went through the same thing. Mood swings and all. We are getting older and we're going through a lot of changes. Good and bad changes. We can't be happy little angels all the time. My mom is more laid back, when I talk disrespectfully towards her she just asks me nicely to stop and sometimes I say okay, and other times I say whatever and walk away. It depends on our mood and what kind of day we're having. My dads a little on the meaner side, if I talk disrespectfully or do something disrespectful he'll yell at me and sometimes punish me. Honestly, it doesn't work. It puts me in a worse mood and makes it so I don't want to be respectful towards him. I don't know why but that's how it makes me feel. Just be patient with your boys and keep in mind they're growing up..
They will stop when they want to.
When I was 15 I went through a "rebellion" stage. Although a slightly more serious case then what your speaking about I too was a little A hole to my mom. My parents tried everything...literally everything. They called the police on me, sent me to boot camp(not overnight bootcamp), cut me off financially, everything. It got to the point where I didnt do anything they asked..including complying with punishment. The thing that finally got me to stop was they told me that they were sending me to a 15 month bootcamp 500 miles away. I straightened up real fast. I had to beg them not to send me first. They switched my school and I never looked back.
The thing is that more than anything, more than the boot camp, I myself decided that I had had enough. Sorry to say it but there nothing you can do as a mother to make them comply if they simply do not want to. One day they are going to wake up and say "well that was enough of that... time to grow up I guess."
Also that's not much of a relationship with your boys. You seem like you barely spend time with them. I spend more time with my mom then I do with my dad and me and her are much closer. I have a lot more respect for my mom because she's funner, cooler, and gives me the time of day. You know? Spend more time with them. Take them somewhere theyyy want to go. Show them a good time. When I go somewhere with my mom we blast the music in the car and sing and have fun. But maybe it's a mother-daighter thing. I'm not sure, but it might help with you and your sons relationships and their attitude towards you..
im 17 and you knoww there are many times when I am disrespectful to my parents, I dont want to be but its just the teenage years. remember your kids are growing up so they want to become a little more independent. punish them with phones,cars, computer, going out, and stuuf like that for like a caouiple days or a week depending on how severe.
its not just your kids I would say about 70-80% of kid that age have no respect its normal. just keep doing what your doing. take privlidges away, ground them or try talking to the mabout how you feel about this. hope this helps :) feel free to fun mail me
im 14 and im a girl tho but they dont sound as bad as they could be like I swear at my parents and say no all the time so they sownd preti gud
