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My 11 year old has a "boyfriend"

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My 11 year old has a boyfriend (if that is what you call it). They see each other at school in the halls and during lunch. I like him, he is a good kid, in honors classes and participates in various after school activities. My daughter is the same, she is a straight A, honors student and very sports oriented. So you can guess what a suprise it was when she came home from school one day announcing that she had a boyfriend. She has claimed to have a crush on him since kindergarten. We would always tease her about him. They spend time together with other friends around. Last night they discussed a kiss on the cheek. They have never even held hands, unless picking each other up off the floor when one of them falls while roller skating or tripping---if that counts. I was watching them last night when I picked my daughter up how they talk to each other or how he leans up against the wall and looks at her. He claims to have had a crush on her since kinder also. Well, I don't know how to take the kissing thing. She was shocked, she told me and told him that she was not allowed to kiss because I did not allow it. He did not get upset. He has never been anything but considerate to fact he is more a gentleman than most men I know. And that was that...the night went on as if nothing was ever discussed. My daughter tells me most of everything, but I read this on one of her text messages to one of her friends and confronted her about it calmly. I think I was more upset that she did not tell me, then about the kissing discussion. I am afraid that she will not tell me when this kissing thing happens because that is one of the rules I have set. Up until this she has told me everything, but she was afraid I would get upset. I don't really know if I would be upset because I remember my first kiss, but at the same time...I said no kissing. So I am stuck..most kids when you tell them no they do it anyway. What should I do? I want her to continue to tell me everything and tell me when anything happens without thinking that I would get upset. I couldn't tell my parents anything, so I don't know how to handle all this. I am looking for some advice from parents who have been through the this.