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Biology! Think about how much energy a mother invests in her child. Nine months gestation, maybe a year breastfeeding (And that takes ALOT of energy!) and usually (not always) the mother is the primary caregiver so if you think about it from an evolutionary perspective, where you're main goal is to pass on your genes, a mother has so much more to lose if she loses a child. Then there are hormones. Pregnancy hormones actually change a mothers brain so she becomes more focused on her child. This is something which just doesnt occur to anywhere near the same extent in men. And then, since we are also capable of rational thought and form emotional attatchments with our children, there is the bond that forms over the gestation period and breastfeeding.
I guess it's a mother's instinct to always be hovering, watching out & always melding...it more to protect you...not because they want to ruin your life!!!
Mother's carry us in their womb for 9 months...father's dont...with that said that doesnt mean that fathers arent over protective parents...I guess it depends on the situation at home.
Sometimes there is only a dad to take over & step up to the plate being both mother & father to his kids...so he also winds up the over protective parent.
I guess you have to actually be a parent to understand why parents are so over protective...someday when you have kids you will be just as over protective as your parents are...watch you'll see!
I think Mom's have some in-utero bond with their child that makes them really protective of them. There is the chemistry involved in that -- you grew inside your mother for 9 months -- she innately will protect you and die for you out of instinct. Just look at large Gorillas and other ape species. Mom's protect their young when approached by predators Its embedded in women to protect their offspring, for the survival of the race.
I think it actually varies from family to family. My parents were both the same, and neither was over protective. My husbands mother is way too over protective. I guess my husband gets it from his mom because he starting to be over protective of our kids. I'm the more laid back one like my parents were.
I don't agree.. my husband is the overprotective parent.. I love my son but at the same time i want him to learn what life's all about in a safe environment.. kids have to learn how to fall and get back up without the world crashing down..
In my family, it was my dad who was over protective...my mom was more in touch with the reality of the times.
i think that if u are a girl your dad is the over protective one and if you are a boy the mom is the one.
its funny because mines the opposite.my dads the overprotective one when my mom could care less
i dunno but its sooooooooooooooooooo irratating lmao
I agree.. my husband also gets it from his mother..
they want the best for you.
Well said...you go girl!♥
i agree :(
