how do I get over losing my child to adoption???
WAVING MY HAND!!! HEY!!! I was adopted at birth. Let me say I had WONDERFUL adopted parents and I was NEVER abused or neglected. TRULY let me say as an adopted child I have to genuinely thank my birth mother for her choice to put me up for adoption vs...god only knows what. See here in my state if you are adopted at birth you can have your adoption records UNSEALED. I decided to have mine done to find out medical information when I had my child. That was the worst choice I have ever made. My birth mother was from an uppity ritzy family and reading how she just wanted "that thing" out of her...meaning...ME...OMG!!! I could hardly believe my eyes reading that trash. My adopted parents were honest about the adoption and I knew I was adopted as soon as I could comprehend it. Truly I was blessed with good parents.
I know this answer is a bit late but I do hope you see it. Honey BIG HUGS!!! all I can say is your choice to put your child up for adoption had to be very difficult and truly trust me when I say in my case...my life was blessed with my adopted parents. :)
Honestly you will never get over it.
I was pushed into placing my son for adoption and I am living in my own hell everyday of my life.
I fought for 91/2 months to get him back and I ended up not getting him. I was treated wrongly and it was the most painful thing. people will tell you that the pain will go away. That is a bunch of BS. the pain will always be there you will just be able to control it better but the pain will never leave. That baby is apart of you and will never leave you. Your baby will find you someday and they will know how much you love them
we can only hope that the family that has them is loving them but they will never love them as much as the real mother could.
stay strong.
You don't. That doesn't mean it wasn't the right decision for you and your child, but you never get over it. You can be at peace with it, you can learn to live with it, even appreciate it, but you don't ever forget. You will love your child forever and there will always be a place for them in your heart. Get counseling, find supportive friends, - you can have a beautiful, full, purposeful life, and even be grateful for adoption. But the memory, and probably pain, will always be there. That's what love is.
well as an adopted child id say just leave info 4 dem 2 find u. my bio mom didnt and I hate it because I feel like ders a big part of my life missin and cnt get any answers so just b der when dey want to find u I hope I helped sumwat
There really is not way I know its going to be very hard right now but your going to get threw it try and take some classes and try to get them back. If I can help in any other way feel free to fun mail me. Your truly, Demika Ray
Its something you never get over. Just remember hes going to have a better life with more oppurtinities. As long as you did it to give him a better life then dont worry
I don't think anyone could get over losing a child weather its form adoption or death or something else I think it will always be at the back of your mind
I think that you should leave them info so then in the future they can find you and maybe then your ready to be there mother...
think about the fact that you gave him so he could have a happy life (if thats the reason)
