My parents dont like my fiance, should I invite them to the wedding

So im getting married next month and im not sure I want to bring my parents. My dad said that he WILL NOT Walk me down the isle. He doesnt like my feance because he smokes weed (he only does it every now and then not like religiously)so that automatically makes him a drugie. so my dad only sees him as that and doesnt try to see him in any other way. As a matter of fact my dad wishes I never met him at all. Getting off subject… What should I do about my parents? Should I suck it up and bring them or should I not invite them?

Answer #1

Life is choices that come with consequencies - sounds like your parents have every right to be very concerned over this choice.

Answer #2

I will be 18 next month so I wont need a parent to sign me off. im not planning to have kids right off the bat. I want to wait ‘til im done with college and have a stable job. and he knows that and agrees with me. we arent in a rush to have kids. we just want to get married.

Answer #3

Dear sandydee, Of course you invite them. But as you said they will not go so make other plans. Invite your father to walk you down the isle and leave it at that. Have a back up such as an uncle or friend who will walk you down the isle if he doesn’t. Always take the mature road that way you will say at least I tried. Then leave it up to them to go or not. I understand it’s a sad thing they won’t be there but if in a few years when your dad sees this man is treating you very well…and has stopped smoking pot. You won’t feel guilty for not offering. Take tons of pictures and send them to your dad if he doesn’t go. He will cherish them even if he says he threw them away…older adults sometimes are not the best communicators and sometimes can’t admit when they were wrong. So don’t get angry but show him how mature you both can be. Sue…good luck

Answer #4

He does treat me right and is very mature and doesnt “blow smoke in my face”. He is trying to stop smoking, though he has cut down a lot from when we first met. he has a great job being a nurses assisstant. He is responsiable We dont want a big wedding either, its just going to be our family and some close friends.

Answer #5

Yes you should, but I’m 17 just like you and I wouldn’t even think about getting married. Don’t care how much I’m in love. I don’t want to end up 20 with a kids and no baby daddy around. Good luck!!!

Answer #6

Wow, your only 17-years-old and your already going down the isle? Eeeek! I can see why they don’t want anything to do with the wedding…

Answer #7

Maybe you should wait until you’re done college and have a stable job to get MARRIED. As much as we hate to admit it, 95% of the time, parents know what’s best for us. You’re not ready to get married yet if you don’t realize that. Your dad only wants the most respectable guy and one who will treat you right..not blow smoke into your face.

As for your fiance, it doesn’t sound like he’s mature enough to get married if he thinks it’s still cool to smoke weed all the time.

P.S. Who’s paying for the wedding?

Answer #8

it wasnt a wedding but it was my sons first birthday and I wanted my whole family to be there well I have a sis that has done drugs before and my sons dads family wouldnt come if she was there and I was not about to choose well I sent them an invation anyway and if they came great and if not well I did my best send them one anyway is what im trying to say. congrats by the way good luck

Answer #9

parents or fiance? thats the question…

either say to your parents, I’m inviting you to the wedding. If you want walk out my life don’t come, but if you want be part of my life come and be happy for me.

or say to your fiance, stop the weed and prove to my dad your not the druggie he thinks you are.

Answer #10

Howm can you be 17 and getting married??? your parents have to sign you offf on that so you can get a marriage certificate…

Answer #11

lol dont listen to what people tell u, its all misleading information you need to do your own research and see for urself

These are some of the comments I have copied from a forum

-pharmaceuticals are known to kill more people than illegal drugs

-marijuana is the number 1 cash crop in the world it serves as a natural medicine and has many other uses thats why they prohibited it so big companies can make more profit thanks to “bad journalism”

-can also help aids patients, aids diminishes appetite have them smoke a joint and they regain their appetite counteracting the illness

-no one can die from smoking cannabis and has been no known deaths compared to everything else including alcohol, tobacco, etc..

I myself have asthma and smoking opens up my airways making it easier to breathe with no side effects when medically legalized in my state I look foward to becoming a patient for prescription marijuana. 12 states have already legalized it along with other countries in the world and more following my job is to educate people that are not aware of the plants uses

re-legalize!

-I did most of my research through websites, books, magazines, and the news norml.org high times magazine etc..

  • theres more to it than just getting high and I believe legalizing it would make this a better world to live in

-God bless the whole crop!

  • and for people that dont smoke, you dont need to smoke it to support it

-all the better reason for the government to legalize.. couple reasons why it should be legalized: -will be removed from black market and stop empowering gang members -medical reasons -would be sold like alcohol, remember alcohol was once prohibited too (in stores away from children, have to be 21+) -would be a law that you cant drive while intoxicated on weed -prison population would lower (prisons are overcrowding with nonviolent offenders) -keep patients from being convicted -would provide millions of jobs for people -would make us an independent country (fuel, etc.., debt free america)

people with an addiction (including hard drugs) shouldnt be thrown in jail, they need help theres more people in jail with mental illnesses than there are in mental institutions

the list goes on

  • the War on Drugs is a failure, its a war on its own people. policies need to be changed we pay billions in taxpayers money to keep the war going and neither side is winning thats just a waste of our tax money I wonder what they do with all that money.. those greedy bastards just sell drugs back onto the street, you can even check urself on that there was a time when there was a cia operation transporting drugs overseas into america the government also provided Rick Ross with plenty of heroin to go around, course making money from it

the truth must be exposed, theyre dirty work must stop!

-Of course we can do something about it, we all just need to unite screw the federal government remember slavery? if no one stood up im pretty sure it would still be going on people were tortured, beaten, killed and thrown in jail but that didnt stop them standing up for their rights eventually slavery was abolished same with alcohol prohibition eventually became re-legalized

  • its like theres some kind of conspiracy going on I sense the government is up to no good and trying to control us. credit cards, money, and now they have chips that can be implanted in skin for uselful reasons but if in the wrong hands well were pretty much fuct they hiding the truth from us its dangerous to be right when the government is wrong they got theyre privacy but we dont. they want to know everything were doing on our leisure time

get up stand up!

  • marijuanas not anti-establishment because its illegal, its illegal because its anti-establishment

all facts stated have been double-checked and confirmed want to learn more? norml.org americandrugwar.org hightimes.com lets all make this a better place to live in!

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