Ok I'm 18 and I'm having a baby in June. me and the father are together, but we have our problems. I really dont think were going to last much longer. as far as I can tell, no matter what happens with us he will be there for the baby. but, I'm not sure what to do about the last name. my mom and friends all tell me it should have my last name, but I dont understand what the big deal is. when I was younger it was uncommon for a child to have the moms last name, but today I see more and more of kids having there moms name. What are some of your opinions? And pros and cons of each?
When my parents divorced my mom went back to her maiden name. There were times when officials (schools, etc) would ask for my bro/sis/my last names and we'd have to say "well our last name is ... but my mom's is ..." and we always got a weird look. When my mom was remarried, it was the same problem as she changed her last name again, but ours was the same as our birth dad's. My sister has a 3 year old girl who has her father's last name. They are going through a divorce right now, and to avoid the problems that we had growing up, my sister is just going to keep her married name.
So I guess its not just about "well I dont want to be reminded of my ex from my daughters name" but there is a lot of confusion involved when you and your kid don't match up. On paper, how would anyone know that was really your kid?
If you don't see you lasting I suggest you keeping your last name, my friends parents are divorced and her mom cant stand the thought of calling her by her dads last name but that's what is on her birth certificate. She's now 19-years-old and wants to have it changed to her moms since that's who she lives with, even though she does see her dad she's much closer to her mom because she was her main provider her entire life.
I think that in this situation, the child should have your last name. You aren't married, and you already are doubting how long the relationship is going to last - it would be better to put your last name, then to have to deal with his last name after you break up or having to go through the court system (which takes money and time) to change your childs last name.
and about the child support comment, don't worry about the child having your last name and it being easier to get it... the hospital should give you a proof of paternity papers and that will take care of that because the father would have to sign it. even if he doesn't the department of health can help you with paternity testing if he were to ever deny the baby.
I gave my daughter my last name because I could never see myself marrying her father. And I don't regret it for a second. I did go after him for child support (he didn't sign the paternity papers at the hospital), but I do get child support because he never showed up to court to deny her.
Well... My daughter took my last name due to insurance reasons.. if the baby is not on the fathers insurance or the parents of the fathers insurance then the baby needs to take your last name. I 'm not sure if it's different in any state, but that is how it is in oklahoma.
everyone alive I hope has there mother or fathers las name. I've never met anyone who didn't have their mom or dads last name. you and the father need to decide if you want the baby to have your last name or his last name
ithink you should give the baby the dad's last name...because then you could get child support easier from him if you guys break up. cus it wont be that hard to prove its his kid.
Keep it your last name because if you break up and find someone else to get married to then you dont want your child having your exs last name and you get a new one.
I think your baby should have both your surnames with a hyphen (-) in between, then it shows that the baby belongs to both of you , even though you may be split up
The kid should have your last name. he/she might not even want anything 2 do with his/her father. give the baby your last name, or you might regret it.
If it was me and I didnt see me and this man lasting together in a relationship I would for sure put it in my last name. But the choice is yours
If it was me and I didnt see me and this man lasting together in a relationship I would for sure put it in my last name. But the choice is yours
both is always an option but it's usually the mother's name the baby will have if your not married before the baby was born...isnt that a law??
No, me and my fiance are not married and my son has his last name.
It's your kid, you claim it!
