People make it seem like having kids ruins your life?

When most people say that they are talking about 13, 14, 15 & 16 year olds. And in a way it does ruin their life, unless they have someone that is going to be there to help them 75% of the time. A lot of girls are immature and naive, can you really imagine someone like that raising a baby? Some girls can handle it while others can’t. I agree that nobody should tell you it’s going to ruin your life, obviously it hasn’t ruined yours, but, for some girls it does.

Good luck and congratulations on your son

Because most people cant go to school and take care of a baby. You must have a great support system, and you’re lucky… but most people arent as lucky… so they end up dropping out of school and this gets them stuck in low paying jobs, so they’re working two jobs, they never see their kids, and they never get out of it, and then when their kids turn 16 and have kids of their own, well then they’re raising grandkids at 32… and the cycle continues… does it make some people change and straighten up? yes… but for most people they get stuck…

Having kids (at any age) causes your life to completely flip around.

Read what BABYGIRL1220 says. And read it again.

Having kids changes your focus and your goals, and if you do not have the basics ALREADY completed - education, maturity, career, relationship, etc. - it becomes VERY difficult to so when you are trying to raise a child.

Read ichibanarky’s response, too.

Stay safe, practice Safer Sex, and, as always, Good Luck!!

yes I feel like having my kids has runied my life to some extent ! maybe im being honest and selfish ! I am single although their dad still wants me … I dont want him ! I cant get babysitters to go on dates and when I do start seeing soemone you cant let the kids see them for a long time and when you have kids 24 hours its not very easy ! plus time is not your own you have another 2 people to look after and I cant go to college I have to be stuck in a boring job cause I need to support this house and my finances and I dont have babysitters to take them !

yes I feel like having my kids has runied my life to some extent ! maybe im being honest and selfish ! I am single although their dad still wants me … I dont want him ! I cant get babysitters to go on dates and when I do start seeing soemone you cant let the kids see them for a long time and when you have kids 24 hours its not very easy ! plus time is not your own you have another 2 people to look after and I cant go to college I have to be stuck in a boring job cause I need to support this house and my finances and I dont have babysitters to take them !

I love my son with all my heart…but that doesnt mean that this was the path I would have chosen for myself had circumstances been different…Raising my son, while it brings more joy then I could ever imagine…also takes tolls on things I didnt even think it could

Having a baby doesnt always change everything though…it wont always stop your boyfriend from breaking up with you…or your husband from leaving you…and I hate when girls think that if they get pregnant he wont leave her cause there is still that chance…and even the good guys may stay around for the child but that doesnt mean he wants to marry you…its hard

I would never say that my son has ruined my life but it has completley flipped it around…instead of being nineteen and going out and partying…im home watching Blues Clues and singing the alphabet song…instead of buying amazing outfits that are the “got to haves” of todays society…I have to save my money and buy diapers and clothes and food for my son

Problems happen when kids start having kids…thats all im saying

sorry if my answer is all over the place lol jogging my mind on this haha

Let me tell you something.

I got pregnant at 17. I had a difficult pregnancy and had to drop out of high school. I was persuaded by my parents to marry the father, who refused to even get a job. The father ran off when my daughter was 9 months old. I lived on welfare - which barely paid the bills - because I couldn’t get a job (without a high school education) that would pay me enough to cover my bills and childcare.

Years later: At the age of 27, I finally got the opportunity to finish high school. I couldn’t afford college until a couple years after that, so I worked at Tim Hortons while my kids (there were two more at this point) were in school. I finally graduated from college in 2007. Because of my lack of work experience, it has been difficult for me to get a job in my field that will pay me enough to pay off my student loan ($40, 000 in debt just to go to college), and feed my kids, and pay my bills (and I have a spouse now).

Don’t get me wrong - I love my kids and wouldn’t give them up for the world, but I missed out on being a teenager. I didn’t have a prom. I didn’t have friends. I didn’t have money. I didn’t have the baby’s father in my life. Most important, I didn’t have hope.

This is something that needs a lot of consideration. Take it from someone who’s been there.

yes I feel like having my kids has runied my life to some extent ! maybe im being honest and selfish ! I am single although their dad still wants me … I dont want him ! I cant get babysitters to go on dates and when I do start seeing soemone you cant let the kids see them for a long time and when you have kids 24 hours its not very easy ! plus time is not your own you have another 2 people to look after and I cant go to college I have to be stuck in a boring job cause I need to support this house and my finances and I dont have babysitters to take them !

If I could go back and do it again…I would NOT HAVE KIDS AT ALL. IT’S because I DO LOVE MY KIDS SO MUCH, that it’s so stressful. Men usually abandon their responsibility, so the Mom has to do all the work by herself…All of the things that would have been possible for me to do if I had help from my husband, ARE GONE…and I WAS MARRIED TO THE FATHER OF MY CHILDREN, BEFORE I EVEN GOT PREGNANT…Like most men, he abandoned the children and me and I struggle to pay bills, go to school or pursue my dreams. I can’t use any of my talents to become something more, because guess what…I HAVE TO PUT THE KIDS FIRST.Even with childcare, their should be a limit to how long the kids are away from any Parent, so some of my goals are not possible. My life is like repeating the same, miserable cycle every day…It Horrible! I can’t believe that having children with my husband left me with such a HORRIBLE CIRCUMSTANCE. I am a few dollars away from being homeless at this point and I wish this weren’t my life. I can say, that even with all of my misery, I work my butt off, trying to give my children the love and support that they need to be health and happy. Yes, you can still have a life and have kids, but if you are already struggling in any way…the overwhelming responsiblity of kids CAN leave you depleted and miserable. I think men are the only ones who DON’T feel this way, because they don’t take care of their kids to begin with. I hate my life, but I love my kids. IF YOU VALUE YOUR LIFE, DON’T HAVE KIDS, UNLESS YOUR ONLY DREAM IN LIFE IS TO RAISE KIDS. Most adults and children are better off if most of us don’t have kids in the first place. IT’S MISERABLE AND THERE IS NOT TURNING BACK ONCE YOU HAVE THEM!!!