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Yesterday when my dad let me use his laptop, I saw a msn icon. I nevaknew my dad used msn so I clicked on it and it said his name at the top, and his personal message was, "I love you so much Sayang (L)" But there was only one contact, a person with "Solitaire" as their display message, I knew that wasn't my mum. She doesn't have msn... so I told my sis who told my mum who asked my dad about it...then in the evening he came downstairs and asked me what I saw and told me he only had yahoo.. Then my sis told me that last year he kind of had an affair with an ex-student, mum found out in Malaysia when my dad got a txt message saying "I love you soo much Sayang! How are you?" that was why my mum came home realy drunk one night and puked and fainted. She was so upset that dad had an affair that she got herself drunk. Ever since then we neva heard from the ex-student again... So the question now is... what should I do about this because I am so sure that I saw the msn icon and I KNOW what I saw...who does my mum trust...her husband who kind of had an affair...or her dumb asss youngest daughter - me. What should I do, I look at my dad differently now, because I never thought he would do this...he loved mum a lot! Please help me this is really urgent!! I need to find some good advice because im treating my dad differently and he doesn't know that I know about this...
xoxox ~pree~
I'd keep out of it...this is something between your parents, and your sister has already made your mother aware of what you saw...so there's no reason to keep stirring pot, in order for your mom to see you are "right" (she probably KNOWS that you saw what you saw)...but she needs time to digest this new information.
It's disappointing to find our parents are less than perfect...I'm sure there's a part of you that wishes you'd never seen this...I feel for you. However, finding out our parents are human...make mistakes just like we do...is part of growing up...nobody escapes this fact of life. Work on forgiving him, as he'd forgive you...and don't put yourself in the middle of his and mom's problem.
phrannie
Try to use your dads computer again and look and see if the msn messanger is on there if it is look and see what the date is if it in the past let it go but if it is from anytime recently then email it to yourself or copy it and save it then show both of your parents at the same time. I think your mom has the right to know if your dad is having an affair again and if he is your mom needs to realize that no matter how much she loves him she doesnt deserve being treated like that. I hope this helped.
Your parents are both consenting adults. Your mother has as much information as you do, sice you told her what you saw (the MSN icon). Now, just stay out of it, it's their problem to work out. As far as losing respect for your father, that was his fault. There is nothing you can do to regain respect for him, that is up to him.
