I have been fortunate in my life...where my parents failed i learned a lot on the streets...street smarts...through friends, some family (when I had them around) and believe it or not...plain strangers who have turned into friends.
Music as well has taught me how to cope with a lot of pain, for sometimes it is just something in the lyrics that you feel you can cope with & picture your life word for word describing how you feel, the stuff you have gone through & what you as a person can do to change things or learn to say enough is enough!
Writing is another way I have coped with my pain & suffering...I owe that to my godmother who sat me down when i was 12, right in fromnt of a type writter, gave a lot of paper & said what ever it is that you feel, type it. When i kept on making too many mistakes, I said to myself, better write a first draft, then reread, make changes if nec & then when it is just perfect type it up!
I think its been my biggest inspiration of all time...
I know for me...singing is a form or relaxation, a way to release a lot of tension, pain & aggression
With all that said...sometimes...its not really about who you know or dont but the fact that someone has gone through something, anything who can just be sympathetic to you or your situation, someone that can make you realize that you are not alone...that someone even a stranger on a wonderful site like funadvice, with no strings attached...are willing to just listen to you, not judge you, lend you a shoulder to cry on...and offer you the best free advice they can without criticizing...just being there as a friend. Sometimes, it is all you need!
Sorry this was long...but it came from my heart...hope this helped!
#1 probably my grandparents on my mom's side. They have always helped push me to accomplish things, and I never wanted to disappoint them. They always seemed so successful to me. Neither was born rich or fancy or anything. My grandpa was born on a farm, my grandma in the middle of nowhere in SD. But during their lives they have accomplished so much, including owning a VERY successful restate company oh about 15-20 years back before they decided to retire. Just makes me feel like even though I don't have fancy roots or a rich family I can accomplish just about anything I want to. I never would have bought my house w/o their support and help.
#2 would be my best mate Chris. He has always been kinda like an older brother to me. Since I was the oldest, didn't really have anyone in my one age group to look up to, and well while my dads a decent guy doesn't really have any outstanding qualities. But Chris always seems to have everything together. At 24 he owns 3 rentals, a decent local egg business and part of farm. Really he works for himself.
Well, mainly friends from church and the church itself. I have a special friend that has made an influence in my life since she has been there for me and she has been like a mom to me. She has 6 children and I love her and her husband very much.
I used to have another close friend that was like grandma but she is too jealous and she basicly turned on me. My family used to be an influence but they turned on me as well. The counselor I see has been an influence too. In fact, when I'm through at the community college I attend and transfer to a university, I'm going to major in the field of counseling. I love the people around me and they've made great influences and still do.
My dad was, he was the most amazing compationate person. He was there for me through every hell I put him through and his love never faultered. I wish I had spent more time with him but his death was sudden. It always bugs the hell out of me when kids say they hate there parents and blahblahblah cause really when you lose them you'll feel terrible and wish your relationship had been better. I put my dad through hell and said so many hurtfull things and he just took it and said he loved me and that, that would never change. I wish I could take that all back.
The most negative affect was my mom, mainly cos she beat the crap out of me every night until I was 13 but thank God she's gone :D
Most positive is probably My Chemical Romance or Amy Lee. Their music saved my life. <3 But my twin is the one that affected me the most; she's dead but I realized she is still here :) Finding a my religion, Wicca, also changed a lot. :D
Sorry to give you my life story but a LOT affected me :)
Serj Tankian, Ellen Page + The Beatles for me. Grown up listening to Serj (SOAD) and The Beatles so they've been a part of my life since I was only little. Heard about Ellen back in 2005, Watched Hard Candy, decided to find out about her, loved her. She is really intelligent, stunning, talented and is just wow. Y'see, I liked her before all those wee fake fans started liking her because of Juno ¬_¬
i have to agree...as well as having the opportunity to listen to what others have to say.
You live once, you learn every second of every min of every day of every month of every year til the day you die!
Always stop & listen just to get some inside input, you never know who may change your life and how what they have said can play a huge part of a better future...a more positive one!
Lots of people have had a massive affect on my life.
From my mother I got most of my passions in life.
My father taught me to think.
My sisters were always very supportive in everything I did.
Otherwise also my grandmother, teachers, my uncle, my brother in law.
Lots more people should be on this list
My dad mostly, my mom CLAIMS she doesn't have the negative factor on my life but part of is negative cause of her, she just doesn't like when I tell her parts of the bad side of me are caused by her.
Scratch what I said, my friends and family that I live with and know, especially my beautiful girlfriend Casondra have had and still do influence my life.
I <3 them all!
Hmm i would say my boyfriend, hes taught me alot as hes older and knows more :) But then there are my friends, I've learnt not to trust people and only rely on myself!
the best influence in mylife, has been music, if i didnt listen to it, then i guess i would hav allreay givin up on life (: x
Me as well when it comes to the idols, Bam Margera has a big part in my life.
Ive taught myself all i need to know :]
It's split: My mum, myself and my idols.
My friends. They are my everything! ^^
Ellen Page and The Beatles- LOVE THEM!
You have good taste :)