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I want to join the military because I think it will be good for me both physically and mentally not to mention it will help me pay for school if I choose to go. My only problem is that im worried about my mom if I do. She's 43 and she's a single parent, she had my older brother when she was 20 and myself when she was 22. She then got married and had my younger brother who is now 13 and my younger sister who is 6. My mom divorced my stepdad about 5 years ago and she's been single ever since. Times are rough right now with money and she struggles to pay bills. I give her money whenever I can sometimes my whole paycheck, my older brother helps maybe sometimes when he wants to but I feel as if im the only one helping her. I've spoken to her about my wanting to join the military and she does not want me to because she thinks I will get sent to iraq or afganistan. She told me if I died she would die too and that hurt me because my mom means the world to me, she's been the one constant in my life and motivation for a lot of things she's the only parent I've ever had, my father was never around. I know I want to join the military but I hate myself sometimes for wanting to because I feel that she needs me and if I leave her I will make things worse for her and add another thing for her to stress about. But I also know that the money I get could greatly help her (although its not why I want to do it, it is a plus) what should I do when what I want will hurt her and what she wants will hurt me?
don't believe all the propaganda the military spews. I've been there and done that. I've had to stand suicide watch for a guy who tried to kill himself, it can be a very depressing experience. but if you really want to go which I don't advise because you can get financial aid to pay for your academic costs in full, im telling you that everything changes once you're in. I suggest going to school first since thats one of your goals from it anyway, do rotc, then go into the military as an officer. you'll be making much better pay, have housing and meal allowances which means you don't have to live on base or eat their shitty food which by the way you're only allowed to eat certain things (ie can't have to starch foods). if you do the enlisted route which I strongly don't recommend, what the recruiters don't tell you is that you can have guaranteed stationing (be stationed wherever you want) and the job or "mos" you want. BUT, you must make sure to sign a contract stating the things you want, if you look at the bottom of the paperwork it states that anything the recruiter promises you is not vaild, thus you need a contract. remember one thing, they need you, you don't need them.
joespaper, I don't know what you went through or what but the military can be the best decision you could possibly make. my grandfather was in the navy and my uncle in the marines and they both say its the best decisions they ever made and some of their best memories came from their time in the armed forces. personally dude if you really sincerely want to join the military but are still worried about your mother speak to a recruiter or an alternative could be joining the National Guard that way theres a good chance you will be home with your mother the majority of the time unless you get deployed. she should respect your want to serve your country. good luck I hope that helped
I think you should sit down with her and talk to her. tell her your side of the story, and reasons why you want to join the military, then listen to her side of the story. tell her that you can help her through the military, along with helping yourself as well.
I don't know what else to tell you. I hope it all works out for you though.
good luck!!!
I think you should talk with her. let her know your reasons for wanting to join the military. next, hear what she has to think. I'd be scared to join because I dont want to be shot or killed by a roadside bomb or landmine. see what happens from your discussion.
