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Here’s my problem: I’ve been with this guy for 3.5 years now, we’ve been living together for 6 months. Everything is pretty much good, except our sex life. He has over 600 porn vids on the computer, which he adds to on a daily basis any chance he can get (when I’m sleeping or out of the house). It’s all girl on girl or girls playing with sex machine type toys. He seems to prefer getting himself off to the vids rather than doing anything with me. He says that’s not true, but I don’t see why he’d need to pleasure himself to his porn and get new crap every day, but we don’t do anything for weeks at a time.

I have even went as far as buying a sybian for us since he’s so into it, but that just resulted in him wanting to use that for every encounter we had (and now we hardly ever use that, either). I consider myself good in bed, I’m adventurous and will try new things, I don’t mind pleasuring him anytime he may want it - and I’m not some big, ugly-looking chick either (I actually get quite a bit of attention when I’m out alone). So what gives? I’m getting so frustrated!!! Not to mention it’s really starting to make me feel like s*it about myself. :(

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Answer #1

lol. That’s okay. I actually really don’t try. I’ll test him out by seeing how he responds to a kiss or whatever, but he’s usually busy or tired. When I get fed up and we argue over it, he tells me ‘all you have to do is tell me to get in the bedroom’ - which is BS. I don’t feel like I should have to ask for it. Geez, every other relationship I’ve been in I’ve gotten so sick of being hounded for sex from the guy 24/7. I just don’t understand how someone who clearly has sex on the brain all the time (PORN!!!) doesn’t want to have actual sex. And I’ve even tried the ‘I’ll watch it with you’, but I won’t watch his crap - there’s nothing in it for me - and he doesn’t want to watch any other type. In fact, he never watches it when I’m around - he waits me out till I fall asleep. Guys. Grrr…

Answer #2

have you ever consider having a relationship with another woman? Sounds to me like that is what he would really like. Maybe thenn he won’t need all the porn. Just a thought…

Answer #3

I have no clue why he would want to have sex with his girlfriend. if I was living with a chick and she wanted to have sex I would be like ight. only thing I could think is that he is gay but that makes no sense because he watches lesbian porn. ask him thats the only solution to your problem. maybe find a new guy?

Answer #4

I know how you feel. and I want some GUY to answer this so I can know too. Me and my guy have been dating for 2.5 years and living together for 2months and I like to do things (anywhere) but he doesn’t. I mean I watch porn with him some times but its not like he jackoff to it …and when I make a move over and over and over he just never want to. I try just to make sure hes not playing hard to get but he doesn’t do anything.

but what I would say to you is play hard to get and tell him about the guy that check you out so he gets jealous and starts checking you out again don’t try so hard I guess and maybe try watching porn with him or by your self but do it with him there thats all I got missy sorry

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