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I was making an honest effort to face life with a more optimistic outlook, but enough is enough! It seems like every time something good is about to happen, something bad happens to fk me over again. I'm begginning to doubt if good things will ever happen to me. Here's some background info on my sucky life: * I've never met my dad or anyone on his side of the family * My mom's family barely ever bothers with me * I have no social life and I'm only 16 * I fight like crazy with my mom and see a counsellor for depression * It's possible that I have a chemical brain imbalance because my father was on drugs when he had me, so I might have to take medication. * My self-esteem is incredibly low * I wake up every morning dreading the day because I know what's in for me * I want to go to university and become a writer, but probably won't get to, because my family doesn't really have money Now here are some recent examples ( in the past week or so) of how I get fed over: * I was supposed to go out to dinner and have my best friend over for my sweet 16, but I got in a fight with my mom, she slapped me across the face, so we couldn't go out to dinner and my friend's parents said she couldn't come. So, I did absolutely nothing for my sweet 16. * My friend and I were supposed to a school dance, but neither of us ended up being able to go. * My friend and I were supposed to go to a movie, but neither of us ended up being able to go. * I was finally getting my self-esteem sorted out, but suddenly my face has gotten a lot uglier ( it's not all in my head and I don't know what the problem is). * We had a pop-quiz in science, on the exact day I had to get needles and showed up a little late for class. Therefore, I missed the study time the teacher gave the rest of the class and totally flunked. * I havn't been teased in school for about 2 years and now it's starting up again and I don't even know what it's over. I could give you a lot more stuff, but that's all for now. My questions are: Why do I get f**ed over so much and what can I do to stop it?
Il help you u dont know me i knwo u think im weird probably but i like to help people.. listen. u think your lifes so crapyy.. but listen.. when one thing goes wrong it feels like EVERYTHINGS going wrong.. right?? thats because when u think one things wrong u think about that and miss out on the good things in life. ur too caught up thinking about the past when u should be focusing on whats important. lifes about CREATING yourself, yourlife. how you live your life is how itl be nobody can change your life but you
these are my thoughts to what you say..
I've never met my dad or anyone on his side of the family -People dont have either parents.. your lucky to have your mom.. respect her while you have her
My mom's family barely ever bothers with me -whys that? maybe your doing something wrong
I have no social life and I'm only 16 -You being pessimistic and having a low self esteem would bring peopel down and people dont like to be around those people.. start loving yourself. If you do that and have a smile on your face, people will swarm around you. U having no social life is your own fault hun. If ur out there making people laugh, and wanting friends youl get them.
I fight like crazy with my mom and see a counsellor for depression
think about why you fight with her, is she asking soo much from you? she wants to be there for you and u push her away.. and as for depression. i dont know why that is but if it is because of your father, you never had him, you live your life killing yourself over somethihgn that isnt your fault.
It's possible that I have a chemical brain imbalance because my father was on drugs when he had me, so I might have to take medication. -Dont take pills they burn your nerves and you wont be happy please trust me on this one. youve been fine this long meds wont help
My self-esteem is incredibly low look at yourself and find things you like and write them down. then write things u dont like and write them down instead of feeling pitty for yourself, go do something about it to get rid of that! you can do it.:) i did
I wake up every morning dreading the day because I know what's in for me your life is how you make it. nobody else. If you want friends and go talk to them youl have friends, if you feel good about yourself others will love being around you.
I wanna go to university and become a writer, but probably won't get to, because my family doesn't really have money there are oppritunities everywhere. You have to try harder (money) If you write good stuff and have good marks you can get osap or work something out with a university!
I was supposed to go out to dinner and have my best friend over for my sweet 16, but I got in a fight with my mom, she slapped me across the face, so we couldn't go out to dinner and my friend's parents said she couldn't come. So, I did absolutely nothing for my sweet 16.- sweet 16. its a number what makes it so sweet? lol nothing. people all over dont celebrate. theres people dying at 16 your alive. make your life the best. Whyd u get slapped.. for nothing? if u went about a different way that wouldnt happen
My friend and I were supposed to a school dance, but neither of us ended up being able to go. dances come and go you can dance in your room.
My friend and I were supposed to go to a movie, but neither of us ended up being able to go. the movie theaters are open EVERY DAY.
I was finally getting my self-esteem sorted out, but suddenly my face has gotten a lot uglier ( it's not all in my head and I don't know what the problem is). eyebrows?? give me a picture il give u tips:)
We had a pop-quiz in science, on the exact day I had to get needles and showed up a little late for class. Therefore, I missed the study time the teacher gave the rest of the whats one test gona do.
I havn't been teased in school for about 2 years and now it's starting up again and I don't even know what it's over. people shouldnt get to you. if u show people it bothers you.. then theyl do it more. your making yourself out there making everyone think its okay because u dont stand up for yourself. the best thing to do is laugh and walk away. tell them how immature they are
hard to say why, Sometimes I think it's about the way we choose to view things, Its a day, let it go it's the past and you can't do anything to remake that d past day different, don't dwell on the past it will kill your spirit, find something that will never leave or forsake you, someone that will whipe away all you have ever done in the past and make you a new creation! That would be Jesus. I hear you and it sounds so familiar to me as I used to be the same way, I too could not undrstand why, why would people make fun of me? Why do things always get messed up? Life can be like that, that is life according to the world, The world is the world, there is something so much better.
When you find it it makes you wonder how you ever did without it, again that is Jesus, all you do is read The Book of John in the bible, it will explain about Jesus, then ask him into your heart to be your friend, tell him you believe in him*** (if you decide you do)**ask for forgiveness and you will be a new person deep inside you will feel different! Fresh and new *The world may stay the same, and things may still happen , but they won't be your main goal anymore. you will be feeling Love like you never felt it before so deep inside that it seems almost like a dream.
Find a assembly of god church around your home or a bit further if you want, and one that has praise music you may enjoy it! Finding all this will take your mind to a different focus, one of someone who loves you for you and allways has and allways will. If that sounds like something that you would be interested in e-mail me back and I will chat with you. It may not change the outside world but it will change you on the inside, and if that is what yorur looking for it's the only way I know of that works. Believe me I have tried every other way! I would go to school and kids would tease me for no reason, it hurt so much. I always thought of myself as a piece of(^&% after that and it lasted years**Until I found Jesus my life changed and little by little that self loathing went away, and I love life, people and I won't lie and tell you things will be great , But I will say that God has the answers, Made especially for you, your name your face your mind you! Are special to him, and to all the new people you can meet in a good Christian church, and it does not matter if you are not a believer now , thats why if you go you will meet people and they will help you if you ask to discover if this is for you... You can answer that only you can make that decesion.
Heck go several times, if you do not like that particular one try another they all run a bit different, some have more younger people , some more older some large some small it you call...you might try it especially this time of year, Christmas Oh, it can be quite beautiful... Hope this helped.Love you sister! I understand what you have explained, I know what helped me I hope it does the same for you if you try.
It honestly sounds like you are mentally forcing some of the situation with your own mind. Your mom really shouldn't be raising her had to you, so that is not in your control. The one pop quiz will not ruin your chance at college and neither will the financial situation you might have, because you can focus still on your studies and there are student loans galore to be had if you want them. (Get your gpa to at least a B average and you won't have any worries)
High school is not the end of the world, it is just the beginning. Your birthday was a tragedy though, and it sounds like you are harnessing a lot of anger over that day. This will not endear you to any favors from your mom and it will not help you in your social life. You mentioned needles, are you diabetic? This would make it even more difficult to control a temper or come out of a depression.
I truly believe that our minds help to make our paths through life. If you think of nothing but terrible things and a world out to get you then that is what will happen. If you think of the things you love to do and the people who make you feel better then you will have an easier path. It took me quite a long time to get out of my ADHD rages and focus on the work at school so that I could get out of my own house that was not helping my life. College was not all roses, but I came out of it alive and with more life lessons learned than I wanted yet a wisdom gained from it.
Nowadays there are so many people on the web that are lonely that it is beyond sad. However this is the world we live in with the advent of the world wide web. Which means there are a lot of people to connect with if you are lacking connection, and many stories of peoples lives that make your own trials and tribulations seem paltry or even petty. (nothing like reading about someone else suffering to make you feel a little bit better about your own problems...)
Pick a state college in the state you live in that is reasonably far enough away from your current problems. Make it a goal to get there and succeed where your life at home is failing. This may seem like running away, and in a way it is. However this is not an unhealthy avoidance of your issues, instead it is a movement toward growth and positive change in your life. Stand tall and move forward, don't let others bring you back to their level. Most of those people who tease will be stuck where they live and struggle twice as hard for it. Not all of life is roses, but I do believe that our minds affect our paths.
its amazing how many if you stood up from ir silence and came uo with nice and harsh words for this kid she is probably 18 now and her life may seem difertn thatn before you even start missing old problems instead of the new ones life is a constant hassle you ma have 7 years of bad luck and that wont change but all those years will b worth it for that one day you will feel nothing can touch you everything goes your way and as times passes by and you learn how to live your life (cause thats it is about it learn how to live your life and things will pass by) that one day will turn into on week and as time goes by and experience guides you that week will b a motnh and so on and so on, im 25 and I still have problems living my life you want to hear lame here I go im 25 tried to make abreak for it opend uop a bar worst mistake in my life between the booze and the women and drugs I ended up with 2 dolars in my pocket and full ofdebt had to leave my house and come back to live with ym mom like in your case we fight a lot especially now that im old and livivng with her, im still in school with my bachelors, work in crappy job underpaid and with a bad temper boss I just crashed my car last week bad and my mom found out I skiped this semester so more drama for the same thing, so you see hun and rest of you guys life wont get any easier or like roses like you guys said its though but I still get up everymorning to live this crappy just waiting for that day I will feel fine and with time that week will come along and so on dont quit now honey its a long way to the top but when you reach that top every bad moment passed through would b worth every second of it im waiting for my chance dont know if you had it already but if you havent hang in there what do you have to loose just keep trying and learn from it never say no never take a step backwards just keep pushing foward there is always a finish line
two words: I'm sorry? two words: calm yourself two words: trust god two words and more: you're not a screwed up anorexic kid in africa wiff nothing to eat, so you're doing pretty well as a human being, just calm yourself, trust god and TRY to do well in school, forget that your life is fed up and intead tell pplz how lucky you are how happy you are to be alive (even if you're not) and also remmber to keep your cool, and tell yo momma not to hit ya cause its mean and overall on the university thing, you can come up wiff the money urself and there really isnt any age limit to go to university, so I suggest finishing grade 12, getting a job, saving up and then going to university, and one more thing, all this sim telling u, isnt coming from a richass spoiled brat or w/e. its coming from a 13yr old who is in this "smartass" program called international baccaulerate and gets about 6000 hours of homework per day wiff a little sis and even tho I have friends and I aint the best looking apple in the bush either, but I love life cause I keep rocking wiff my friends cause theres nothing better than living the moment. Plan for the future but keep in mind that, its not yesterday and its not tomorrow, its TODAY you want to live life. hope this s***helped, later.
p.s: anyone can have a social life, just be social. one thing is to be funny, if youre not a funny person and some shy loser (no offence) then stick to like atleast 3 friends or w/e...thass a socail life besides you have one friend already im sure you have more
I am a 48 year old women who thought she had an unlucky life. I am not a very out going person, do not to this day have lots of friends. still find my life unlucky just when things are going good.
It happens and it harder to understand at age 16. Unfortuneatley it is part of life. The part of life most people don't understand. There are people out there that have all the luck in the world, everything comes easy to them. Again part of life. However, try and keep a good spirit. I have found in my years of growing up that I can only depend on myself to make my life I fortunately do have family that does help me thru tough time (spiritually and emotionally) You don't need many friends you really need true friends. Find peace in yourself, through prayer, there is always a family community at church. People out in this world do care. Luck or not Love life any little good, because it could always be worse.
I hope you find comfort in your changing body and your Spiritual God. Life will get better one day, it may take a while but always have hope in the heart, but do take care of yourself, for yourself and peace of mind. Around the next corner or the corner somewhere after there are people or is someone waiting for you to bloom into the person you can one day be. I pray you give yourself a chance to reach that place.
I'm soo sorry that you never got to see your dad but luk at the positive side, you know he did alot of drugs and you life might have been worse. If your mom is a single parents, she is probably confused herself about her life. You might be making it hard for your mom when you talk back to her and she makes things hard for you by grounding you and stuff. I won't say parents are always right because many of times they do make mistakes just like us. I would say that you must talk to your mom-which is very hard to do when you feel like the victim. You should tell her how you feel about things and than maybe she will tell you about her problems and than you guys might conpromise things out. If you and your mom understands each other than there wouln't be any arguments/yelling and you wouldn't have to go into depression. She will also allow you to hang out with your friends and this will bring up your self esteem. I would say stop thinking your ugly but try to have confident in yourself, people like to see that. Your mom is older and therefore you have to compromise, you can't always have her ways.. After all she once was a child and hoped to have son and love him. Maybe she feels where she went wrong. There are many misunderstanding which can be fixed by sitting down and talking about things. GOOD LUCK!
Call the police because of your mother striking you. You're priviledges are taken from you? And people make fun of you? Stand up strong and don't show signs of weakness against the bullies. As for your mother tell her to leave you alone because she doesn't care. Get some police help. You can get emancipated and adopted into a life where someone really does care. Either that or w8 until you're 18 and out of the house. As for College to become a writer there are other ways to get your stories published if you think you're that well at writing. You can enter the thisispush.com contest and if you win, you'll be published. Or you can try for a scholarship, which is the hard way. You can also try getting a job for your own intuition. As for your appearance, if it's something of your face like pimple or such they can be rid of with proactiv and other materials. Or if it's a problem about weight you can jog everyday. You can turn your life around if you're willing to take action and make sacrifices. I may only be 13 but I have seen my fair share of problems. Trust me, once you try and change yourself, you will see everything in a new light. Don't be negative, stay positive!
Aww man I know EXACTLY how you feel...when you said "It seems like every time something good is about to happen, something bad happens to f*k me over again", that reminded me EXACTLY of how my life is...especially this particular schoolyear, every time (and i literally mean EVERY time) I think something good is gonna happen in my life, it gets fcked up somehow...it really does make you feel hopeless, i know how you feel...with friends, girls, whatever, I always seem to get dicked over somehow, basically i just seem to have really horrible luck...
The best thing you can do is just think of the GOOD things in your life, good friends you might have, or whatever it might be, and try your best to overcome the horrible luck that it sounds like you've said, because like I said, I myself also have horrible luck, but I just try my best to overcome it. Just stay strong and keep trying. I'm sorry to hear all this stuff and I hope things work out for you.
I think alot of this is in your head. It is awful that you've never met your Dad, and he was possibly on drugs but all you have to do is look into the future. I feel sad alot because: I lost my mum this year, I have been diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, and so coinsidentally, am not able to go out with my friends, My sister is of ill health, my Dad is of ill health, my Grandmother is in care because of ill health, My Dad's high status job is on the rocks, my best friend just lost her dad. I'm 14.
I think you just have to remember that theres other people suffering too, and although it's hard, look at the bright things, like you still have a best friend, and you still have your Mum, and your a healthy person. (except for depression) Your not going to have a good life if you don't try, so don't waste the opertunity that your giving. And if you really want advice about why your sad, go to a doctor, not the internet please.
well...by reading ur story it does seem ur life is in a trouble whole...as u stated ur life isnt going well...i know life isnt easy @ times n thinking poistive iz hard when things always go the wrong way...i dont have a certain idea that i could give u but i would take one step @ a time...focus on one thing n see how that goes...dont put high expectation on u...if ur having trouble @ home go 2 the skool councialer or the police they should b able 2 help u out...good luck...i know rents can b harsh on us but i suppose there just lking after us but if there punshing us 4 sumthing we havent dun i disagree wif them n then u should tell sum1...anyway hope mi advice helps u n if u nd more advice just post me a comment n i will help u...cheers m8! xoxo
alot would change for you if you had more personal power and authority for yourself.
adversity is something that will put you in a position to fight the ongoing issues and overcome them and find your victory and happy life.
start by smiling more than you have ever done with more intensity more than other people more than makes sense more and more. smile when someone is rude or difficult or you are dealing with disappointment and frustration and do the work it takes to bring yourself up. you have that power.
work. get 2 jobs minimum, and set your mind to achieving something that you admire be creative and fight this attitude. use your wonderful brain and change the direction of your life.
It's been said that life is 10% what happens and 90% how we react to it. I believe there is a lot of truth in this saying.
If you want to be a writer than write damn it! Going to a university is great but it is just one path. If you get into college than make the most of it; if you don't than write anyway and find any writing mentor you can. If you have writing in you than you will find a way to make it happen.
Pretty much every writer has a tortured existance. If you went through life without stress what the heck would you have to write about?
Oh boy do I understand how you feel. I feel the same. I feel like everything is just destroyed. Try to make changes in life. Join a club just distract your mind. Try finding a hobby. My life was crappy still is sometime. I joined the drama club I had friends and I got to stay away from my house. It was great. I hope you see a bright side to your life one day!
LQQK, like you said, you are only 16...your still a baby, give me a break. Take a lQQk at my crappy life. 1. I'm an old lady 2. I have a criminal record that gets me NOWHERE fast. 3. I have no money 4. I cant find a f__kin job 5.and the worst, I live with my mother. lmfao...have a good life...lol
Well you are not the only one because I think my life stinks too. But eventually it will be over and if not I just stttarted being labled as an emo and you know what I did. I became emo and scared the crap out of them. Just fight with the same force it always works for me.
I ahve the same problem as you. my life is sh*t too, I was born not liking a lot of foods like any fruits or fish. my mums always shouting "I cant go on catering for a person like HER who doesnt eat anything". life eels like its not even a life anymore
errhh I know what you mean, about feeling really up one minute then down the next... it always happens to me, but then I get over it and it happens again.. pfft!
Jesus cud slove your worries and tske ur burden away as long as u giv it to him accept Him n He will b ur heavenly Father
if u hav ne questions just ask im here to encourage u just send me an email at xmondthelove@yahoo.com
cheer up doll, no 1's life is crap. but I would suggest looking up karma
the reason your life is so crappy is because you make it crappy.
there's only one solution to that problem...seek Jesus
And I thought I had problems!
i agree with above.
Lol at above ^_^
