Okay, well I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 13. I want to have a baby and I feel that I am mature enough.. I'm not scared about having a baby. I'm just scared about telling my parents. What should I do?
Oh my Gosh! A 13 year old && a 14 year old Oh geezz...This is whats wrong with the damn world today! All these little girls think its cool to have sex && have a baby...Well let me tell you something you wouldnt be able to handle a baby your still a baby yourself for cryin aloud! Your a selfish little girl you need to grow up before you have a baby!!! All you care about is you "I want I want I want" If you have a baby it not going to be about you any more...that baby is going to need you 24/7 do you think a 13 year old can handle that?! Grow up little girl you have your WHOLE life to go to have babys! And if you do end up pregnant how the hell would you support that baby?? In the end your parents well prob be the one looking after your baby...but how do you know that for sure they might kick you outt the house I know I would!! Do you have a job? Do you what to finsh school? Do you want to go to college? Well the babys dad stick around and help you? Do you want to be able to go have fun with your friends on the weekend? Oh and what if your parent do nothing && and kick you butt on the street...then what?You'll be homeless out in the streets with a BABY...A baby needs a mother that can be a mother 24/7 not once a week or when I feel like it a baby needs you 24/7!!! WAIT to have a baby... a baby is a lot of work...you really just need to grow up and really think about what you really want to do...And if you are a virgin stay that way until you mature and stop thinking about yourself all the time
alright well to start off with, are you sure this is really what you want to do? do you truly realize the kind of hard work it takes to be a parent? do you get how many sacrifices you and your boyfriend, whom aren't even totally committed by marriage yet, are gonna have to make? do you get how much more life you have to live before you have to even worry about starting your own family? maybe think about these things before you make any decision yet. for example, how are you going to support your new family? where are you going to live? how will you raise this child when you still are being risen yourself? are you sure that your boyfriend will stick with you and help you through this childhood of your newborn? there's many questions that you will need to answer in order to proceed with this kind of action. I'm 14 myself and believe that at our age it is WAY too early to have these kind of committments and responsibilites in our lives and on our shoulders. trust me, I'm sure you're a beautiful, talented, and smart young girl. just like the rest of us :) so you need to think about this really hard and figure out what is best for you and your boyfriend. you have the whole rest of your lives to concieve. Lol, live your life to the fullest and then take on your adult duties when it's time. don't sell yourself short. you deserve to be a kid.
Your obviously not mature if you think having a baby at 14 is a good idea. Your body isn't physically ready to carry a baby and you aren't mentally ready either. If you can answer yes to all these questions, which I bet you can't go a head and have the baby.
Can you and your boyfriend both work to support this baby?
Will your parents support you through this and look after the baby while your at school?
Will you be willing to miss out on loads of parties?
Will you be willing to give up your teenage years?
Will your boyfriend be willing to miss out on parties and his teenage years?
If you and your boyfriend split up will he support the baby?
Will you be able to afford to pay for one?
If your parents kick you out do you have a place to go?
So answered yes to them all? If you have you are probably lying to yourself. It may seem like a good idea playing "Happy families" but go buy a doll or something for your game, that would work out better.
1st a 13 yr old boy and a 14 yr old girl shouldn't even b havin sex your still in middle school are you serious its a stupid decision both of you are not even old enough to have a job you still have breast milk on both of your breaths and being that you are so young your body is not even fully developed so you would b putting your child at risk of dying then if you do have a baby your not gonna take care of it your parents will so I guess you want your parents to deal with your problems and its most likely that the boy will leave you because its gonna get 2hard 4him the boy can always leave butchu cnt because your the mother so you would have to worry bout a job possibly a sick baby school and running after this stupid boy 4child support money which he is too young to pay so his parents would b on child support you a fool if you do it I guess you want a hard misserable life
If you're 14-years-old and are even thinking about having your own baby in your life to take care of, you are in some desperate need of some serious counseling and therapy. At 14, having your own baby so young should not even be in your thoughts, mind, ideas, beliefs and emotions. I believe you're searching for someone to love you and by having a baby, you think, feel and believe that this baby will look up to you and love you.
It would be best if you immediately talk to your parents and tell them how you feel and get some professional mental help immediately if not, sooner. If is no one's responsiblity to take care of your child...not your parents, your city or state or the government...your job! Why should anyone fix any problems in your life when you made them for yourself?
Like everyone said, your maturity level is quite obvious. I couldn't even fathom having a child of my own at that age. One thing that everyone is def. right about...ITS NOT ABOUT YOU ANYMORE. If you went through with having a baby at the age of 14, think of what your child's life would be like. Think of how he/she would think of YOU someday. Do you really want to end up "the teenage mother living off of welfare"? It wouldn't be fair at all for your children to live that life. They deserve better than that. So think hard, think past all of the urges, think of what is RIGHT. Not only for your future child, but for your life as well. Someday will be the RIGHT day. And then, I wish you the best of luck. But right now, it would be very unforgiving to do that to a child and yourself.
I HAVE A DAUGHTER WHO WAS A TEEN MOM AT 15.SHE IS NOW 24 AND IT HAS'NT BEEN AN EASEY LIFE FOR HER. SHE MISSED OUT OF BEING A TEENAGER,AND WHAT TEENAGERS GET TO DO. SHE HAS HAD TO STRUGGLE WITH EVERY DAY THINGS,AND IS STILL STRUGGLING.IF you COULD TALK TO HER,SHE WOULD SAY TO U.FINISH SCHOOL AND GO TO COLLGE AND THEN WHEN YOUR STABLE ENOUGH IN YOUR OWN LIFE THEN HAVE A CHILD.ITS NOT EASEY HOW you THINK IT IS. GIRL BE A TEENAGER BEFORE you HAVE TO BECOME AN ADULT AND INJOY LIFE AS A TEEN WHILE you CAN. BECAUSE WHEN you BECOME AN ADULT you WILL HAVE PLENTY THEN TO DEAL WITH.AND you DON'T NEEED TO BE A CHILD RAISEING A CHILD.LOVE YOURSELF AND BE U. SET GOALS FOR YOURSELF AND A ACHEIVE THEM. AND MOST ALL KNOW AND BELIEVE IN U!
well juss ask yourself these questions and if you can honestly answer yes to all of them then hey juss have th babd
-if your parents kikk you out and you have no were to go are you gonaa be able to support the baby urself?
-if you baby get sikk and you don't know what to do and your home alone can you drive to the hospital?
-can you provide for your baby without anyones help?
Ru sure you and your boyfrie is going to be togther foreve? because you don't want your baby growing up without a father.
-even though you arent even old enuff to get a jobb how are you gonna support your baby by urself??
did you tell your mom??
funmail me ok I went thru the same problem
You can't be serious. How are you gonna buy his food, medicine, all that? That five bucks mummy and daddy give you for cleaning house? You are not suited for a kid, you are a kid yourself that has years of physical and mental developement to go before you can even say "your ready for a baby". Your parents will wind up helping to take care of it and they won't like it. The boy's parents will also be livid. Your childhood will be spent tugging pennies to raise another. There are so many girls that are under 20 saying they're ready for a baby, and guess how many of them never make ends meet?
I've always felt the same way as you.. but you should know that you should wait, I'm 16 now and I've always wanted one.. I feel that I am also mature enough but I do know that it'd be really hard.. I want to finish school get a good job and find someone that I really love who also really loves me before I get to that level. even if you think you're mature enough, it's hard work and you'll need money to pay for it.. you may have to drop out of school and get a low paying job.. you'll be struggling for a long period of your lifetime.. best thing to do is wait. if I can do it, you can too.
im 16 and want to get pregnant but I know I wont be able to do it and I dont have a boyfriend and the childs life will be so hard and you gotta wait till your married so you know your with a guy or girl that will help you and stay with you, and have enough money. im getting a job and would have money but also my parents would killl me if I came home pregnant but I cant lie I really wish I could have a baby now but I gottaa wait and I'll except it and so should you cause your not ready even if you think you are. you will miss out on so much. and just regret everrything.
I am pregnant I am only 13 and trust me you will regret it listen to all the people that are telling you not to do it think about you future don't ruin your life like I did now I regret it like you said I am scared to tell my parents well I haven't told them yet because I know what I did was one of the stupidest thing ever now I am 2months pregnant and don't know what to do but if you want to have a good future and you want you kid to have a good future to dont get pregnant now wait a little longer=D
are you complaetly physco why would you ever have a baby at 14! you cant't you definatly can't. I'm 16 and I know because I had a baby but not planed like your saying. Im sorry but thats disgusting if you want a baby at 14 I definatly wasnt planning to have one but I did and now I am screwed!You cant hang out with your friends you have to take care of your child if you want the best for your child!You cant relie on your parents to take care of your child because it is yours!YOU ARE NOT READY!!!
you know I feel the same way now and iam 14 but will be 15 very soon AND IAM A FRESH MEN ... and I have a boyfriend we been together since I was 12 and HE IS NOW 16 A JUNIOR .he promised that he will support me and our families are willing to help but im sure I want be able to finish school wit ALL MY FRIENDS AND NOT ABLE TO HAVE THAT TEENAGE LIFE... AND LIVE LIFE.. because you HAVEA BABY THATS EVER FIVE SECONDS...SO JUST WAIT TILL YOUR AT LEAST 18 BUT IM SURE THAT FEELING WILL CHANGE SOON
sometimes I have thoughts about wanting a baby. but I know I am not quite old enough yet and I am going to be 18 in august. if I am almost 18 and not ready, and you are only 14; you are definitely not ready either. babies are a huge responsibility. on top of taking care of yourself and your significant other, you have a baby to take care of and being 14 years old you arent even old enough to be dating. you should really just wait.
im 14 too and I have a 13 year old boyfriend too and we've already had sex and what I learned from that was that he isnt developed enough lol and he is totally mature but not totally developed!! so having a baby right now would be hard but not impossible and also telling your mama is going to be easier than you think - she will cry and probably ask you a million questions!!
having a child is a BIG responsiblity . if you have a baby will you be able to take care of it properly? finsh school ? do you or your b/f have a job ? how will you take care of this baby . are you ready to go thro and make the changes to become a mother? what if you and your b/f dont work out ... you need to think this all the way thro
well if you are absolutely sure that your boyfriend is going to stick with you forever then I would have to say...go get prego and dont tell your parents till after ... but remember that pregnacy is rough and giving birth is even harder... and dont forget to spread coco butter over you stomach so you dont get strech marks!
Okay, well I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 13. I want to have a baby and I feel that I am mature enough..
Well, you're NOT...
I'm not scared about having a baby. I'm just scared about telling my parents.
...a CLEAR indication of immaturity...
What should I do?
Wait ten more years.
I understand that you feel grown up, but trrrust me when I say this is a phase. You need to prove how strong you are and pull through this phase without having a baby. If you are strong enough to do this, then you will accomplish many things in life. Try hard my dear!!!
You may want you and think your mature enough but can you support a baby Can you offer the child everything it will need? I doubt it I recently had a pregance scare and first thought wasn't am I ready for this it was can I provide for the Baby and my girlfriend
want me to be honest... you'll ruin your life.. how the heck do you expect to give the kid a good life? you probably wont even make it through high school with a baby... and your boyfriend.. 14? damn... he wont make any money...
you're scared to tell your parents? you're not adopting a dog... you're talking about a baby. can you imagine your mom saying those words? no? because no parent's primary concern should be what their mommy thinks...
I'm 14 and I feel the same way.. I want to get pregant I've been with a guy for 1 year. He is 16 so I dunno if I should get pregnant.. it might be hard!!
ANYONE TELL ME SOMETHING... ADVICE?
Please wait until you can support a child and be responsible. You just think you want a baby - it will change your life where is not your life anymore. Please re-think your wishes.
im 15 and have a 12 month old girl and it was the best thing that has ever happened to me xxx just do what you think is right babez xxx
Please do not go and get pregnant, if you do get pregnant, put the child up for adoption, I'll adopt your child if that was the case.
u might be mature enough but where is that baby going to sleep and eat? you will have to pay for it and the daddy. not a smart idea.
thats just stupid im 14 and I know neither me or any of my friends are mature enough to have a babby
You're still a little kid for god sake!!! Wait some years then rethink it. Geez.
I always say if you want it go for it. i had a baby shortly after i turned 15.
there is a reason for AGE limits!
Woah...you are WAY too young!
Why do you want a baby?
