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How do you reveal to your parents you want to leave the house?

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for over 2 years and we are of different races. She is in a house of strict religion where the man should ask her parents for her hand in marriage ect. and she been told repeatedly not to see or date me anymore but we still do. Her father and a few aunts already know that she wants to leave but her mom and other aunts already stated they will refuse to let her go. After finding out that her aunts have talked with her mom about trying to kill me if she leaves or as of right now she is piss scared of leaving because she says they will never stop trying to find us. How do we find a peaceful resolution so that we can still enjoy our love and not risk anything with her family or our lives?

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Answer #1

Sounds like her family is ignorant, including her mother.

You’re 21, if she’s over 18, there’s NOTHING they can do. Run for it, man. Forget her family; they would only destroy the relationship.

Get married, have a family, forget her parents. They aren’t worth the suffering for both of you.

Answer #2

Wow! that seems like an incredibly dangerous situation. I’m not certain it would be safe without knowing all the details. Are you commited to marrying this girl? If so, I say take the time and energy needed to convince the family that you truly love her? Sensitive question, are they racist? I know that is really tough coming from an outside angle, so if you don’t feel comfortable answering, I can understand.

Basically, if it has to come to a head and you need to run with her, I would go far and fast and try to make it untracable. (That is only if the situation becomes dangerous) If they have made threats you can go to the local authorities. a lot depends on what they are willing and/or able to do.

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