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I was very picky with my friends.. its hard for me to gain their trust.. My grandpa was the only one I could trust.. he saw me for who I really was.. and he accepted it.. (: but now.. he's gone.. ),: and I got noone.. how do I get over it.?
Hey there! I'm really sorry for your loss.
Losing someone close to your heart will never be an easy thing to go through. Each bond we share with a person is unique and special. When I lost my grandfather and grandmother, I lost two of the very best friends I've ever had. So I can really relate to what you're going through, to an extent. Each person has their own pain and memories, so I really do respect your feelings and unique experience.
With that being said, dealing with this loss can take quite some time. I personally believe that the heart never truly stops grieving a loss, but that with time, we learn how to live our lives as best as possible without that person around physically. Although you won't have your grandfather physically, your grandfather will always remain in your heart and memories. As long as you keep him there, he'll always be with you. No one can take that away from you.
When it comes to healing, this is also something that works differently for different people. Some find talking to family and friends very helpful. Some express themselves in a creative manner, such as writing about their loved one in areas such as private blogs. Some go to grief counseling. Others take a healthy combination of all three. Whatever you do, it's important that you try as hard as you can to NOT bottle up your feelings. It makes the pain a lot worse.
So my advice to you would be to open your heart to some of your friends or family members. Let them know how deeply this is hurting you, so that you don't have to go through this alone. Write about your grandfather and the memories you shared (poems, stories, letters to him, etc). Hold every single second you guys spent together close to your heart. If you need more help for these feelings and thoughts or if this does start affecting your daily life, talk to a grief counselor. Be 100% open and honest with them about what's going on so that they can help you to their full capabilities.
This won't be an easy thing, but you can get through this.
If you ever want to talk, feel free to FunMail me.
When you lose a loved one, such as you have, it is difficult to cope with it. Especially if you were extremely close to them... I, too, lost my grandpa and he was the only person I was able to be close to throughout my life. Honestly, you will never just "get over it". You will always feel that deep affection for them. You just have to think about how he isn't in pain anymore... He wouldn't want you to be upset over his passing. He would want the best for you. He would want you to do your best in life without having to worry about you mourning. He would want to see you happy. He would want for you to see the light in things... He would want you to be happy. Take this advice from one who has dealt with loss. I hope this helps you. You can comment back or message me. (=
hmmm . maybe you should try being more open with your friends, let them see the real you, if there real friends then they'll accept you for who you are, your friends can help you cope with your grandfather's death ... & im sorry about your grandpa.. :( you have to stay strong. hes in a better place.
