im 21 years old... I havent called my mother "mom" in years... shes done a lot of really messed up things smoking crack and abandoning me.. leaving me to raise her 2 kids while she went out and partied..she never really seemd like a mother to me after all that. then when she was on a big 4month crack binge I had gotten pregnant and didnt know...when she came back and started gettin back on track with the household responsibilitys while still smoking crack on the side she came home one night with a pregnancy test and told me to take it because I was sleeping a lot..I took it and of course it came out positive..I was due april 11th 2006.I was dating a black guy.. she didnt agree with the inter-racial relationships.she liked him tho. but when she found out I was pregnant she said she wont have no n*** baby callin her g-ma.she made the first abortion appt.. we didnt make it me and her ended up gettin in a fist fight that morning and then she called the ambulance and told them I was going crazy tryna kill myself which wasnt true at all she had me on the floor kickin me.they took me to the hospital and realized I wasnt crazy and LET her come and pick me up.. she took me strait from there to a teen homeless shelter in the city..where she just dropped me off.I had no where to go I was so scared..the ONLY way I could come home was to get the abortion.. I didnt know what to do I didnt even know what choices I could have had..she led me to believe that I only had 2 abortion..or be homeless..the night I came home from the shelter was the first night that I felt my first twitch which was the beginning of baby kicks..found out the next day that my brother whom is 1 yr oldr his girlfriend that was living with us was also pregnant and due the same day as me..my mom wanted her to have hers.. they tried to keep it from me but I found out.the day I went to get my abortion I remember the whole way there she kept tellin me I was doing the right thng. she was driving so fast like she wanted to get there before I changed my mind again.the clinic was a complete dump.. all I remember was this old man standin outside holding up a sign that says "abortion is homicide"they had me in a cold room for about 3 hrs till I could get the procedure.. I was so far along they had to induce a flase labor.. I was 14 weeks...after I did this horrible act of murder.. I didnt want to come out of my room I stayed in there for 3 months.all I could do was cry. I wanted my baby.she knew it was wrong.. she had my brother at 17 how can she be sucha hypocrit?to this day I refuse to call her mom.. I call her by her first name.. it hurts her now and I can see it but it doesnt bother me because she will never feel the hurt that I have felt for the past 4 years.I cant even have a relationship with my brothers son because he reminds me of the whole situation and thats sad.I use to love holding friends babies... not any more.. I cant even stand to look at pregnant women..it makes me to sad.I've been with my boyfriend im with now for 4 years and I've tried to have a baby and have been very unsuccessfull at getting pregnant.. if I come to find out I cant have kids I dont think there will ever be hope for me to foregive my mother...
Wow, your Mum is really messed up. I would NEVER forgive her, why on Earth would you want someone like her in your life. I would try to get out of there as soon as possible. I feel so sorry for you, no-one should have to go through what you went through. She doesn't deserve you.
It must be so hard for you at the moment, of course you want your baby back, and it hurts you to see other mothers with their babies, and you are never going to forget about your baby or stop missing her. But things will get easier in time. But at the moment, I think you need to get the hell out of that house (if you haven't already). You should keep trying for a baby with your boyfriend if that is what you want to do.
I couldn't even comprehend forgiving your mother for what she did. But it is your decision, and if you really do want to forgive her, then you really need to talk to her about it. Maybe you could try and get some sort of professional help, maybe from a counselor etc. I think that, that would probably help a lot. I hope that things start getting better. I wish you the best of luck.
I know I might sound like the bad one here but I wouldn't forgive her, if she has been nothing but a complete bad influence and burden to me then to hell with her, I couldn't love a mother who acted like that. I would try to keep a good relationship with your brother and his son. It will be hard because he reminds you of your baby but I'm sure after a while you'll begin to love him like one of your own. If you are wanting a baby then I would find a good guy to settle down with and have one or there is always adoption, give an unlucky kid a good home. I know you will never forget your first baby and you shouldn't try to. There isn't a way to go back in time to save him but having one that you can care for will help with the pain. I still have to say that there is no way I could forgive her but if you find it necessary then start off with a discussion about how you think it was wrong and see where that leads. I wish you the best of luck.
wow thats really sad! im sorry your going through all of that! but let it remain in the history because if you dont those emotions those feelings and the stress will murder You. Now whats done is done you cant do anything to change it. but you can Choose to forgive your mother, and if you make the decision to the forgiveness process, is those feelings come up again you should remember that there is nothing you could do and that you chose to forgive her! You will genuinely forgive her is when you you will be able to call her mom again and when her successes with make you happy! I as a christian would recommend you to try going to a church to form a relationship with Jesus, I have and if though I have been in tough times I know that I am in peace, because of his love for me!
personally I dont no if I would be able to forgive my mom for something like abortion. all her old issues such as addictions and having me babysit could be forgiving but abortion is seriously against everything. Its like you will never have the chance to be in your child's life or name it and even if you had another one it would never be the same. I think you should let your mother know you forgive her but set your boundaries with her and let her know it cannot be the same but your willing to have some kind of relationship. Also im in a similar situation and I cry and go through emotional pain as well with my boyfriend so you have helped me as well. I will keep you in my prayers. Hope we both get through it!.
I am so sorry to hear that. In Matthew 18:22, Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times." The Bible says if you do not forgive, God will not forgive you. Holding a grudge won't do anything, but cripple.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Wow...Thats really sad. I want to cry for you! :C
Well abortion is really uhh something bad...maybe go to a doctor that helps you with your problem (forgot the name of that type of doc). Usually it helps. This is waaay to big of a deal to be handled here!
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you all have some really good points thank you so much
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