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How can I get my mom to leave this guy?

He is addicted to alcohol. We live in his house but he has kicked us out many times. When we just about find a house to live in he calls my moms cell. They meet and when she sees him crying she goes back to him. He verbally abuses us too. I have told my mom many times that I dont like him and that I hate living here. He always finds something to yell at me for. Example. I will take a bath. Guess what I get yelled at for it. Any advice?

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Answer #1

I know you love your mom and wish for her happiness, but that is no reason to put your self in a war zone.

Is there any friends or family members that you can stay with? Try and move in with someone who will support you mentally, you dont need that kind of stress. You will have to move in alone with out your mom, so make sure who ever you move in with is understanding that you are in a rough situation.

Your mom is an adult and is able to make decisions on her own but her decisions should not be effecting you in a negative way. If she disagrees with w/ you moving into a relatives home explain to her in front of your relative that her decisions are effcting your life in a negative way and that it is causing you to loose focus on what’s really important to you, such as school or work or friends and intrests. Also explain to your relative that you dont feel safe in the alocholics home. When she realises how her decision are effcting you she will come to her sences.

I strongly believe this: If some one truely loves you they won’t cause you any harm be it physical abuse or mental abuse, infact they will try and prevent not cause it because they care for you and don’t want any harm to come to you. Maybe you should explain this to your mom.

Answer #2

I’ve never experienced this, but you should just tell your mom this: “mom, I know you want to find someone that makes you happy, but I really dont think that this guy makes you happy at all, I mean hes kicked us out many times before and everything, why don’t we just move in an apartment and work it out from there. hes always drinking and it makes me sad, dont you want me to be happy? and you might think he loves you, but if he really loved you then he would either quit drinking, or start treating us better. you dont need someone like this mom, its not healthy for either one of us and I cant take it anymore” I hope this helps you and I hope things will get much better for you :)

Answer #3

honestly I would take a different approch to talking to your mom. I would first find out whats going on in her life. for example does she have the money to support the two of you on her own?, or just basically how much does she relay on him? maybe that could be why she goes back. honestly just trying talking to her alone one day without him around and explain to her how this is serioulsy effecting your life, and maybe there is a solution if you could move with a family member or something else before you just leave because you cant take it. But be careful not to approch her in a defensive way meaning with an attitude take your feelings aside for just that moment and show your mom that you truly care about her happiness but at the same time express your concerns…hope this helps, I have been in your shoes!!!1

Answer #4

Ok well first go sit with your mom and tell her the truth. Be honest with her. NOTHING but honesity. Tell her that your really tired of this guy yellling at you for stuff that isnt even wrong. But im sure soon your mom will wake up and realize this guy isnt the guy she wants to be with. Also try talking to him and saying whats really on your mind. If you be honest, straight out, he’ll maybe change his ways. Tell your teacher or a friends parent hes foing this to you because im sure they will call the police, he’ll get arrested, and life with you and your mom wont be hell. I hoped I helped.

BEST OF LUCK!!!

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