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Her & I were close, she raised me more than my momma, but ever since her man got out, I've been chopped liver; anbd he doesn't treat her like she should. I just miss her and want her back to being the woman who'd jump over the moon if I asked.
All you can do is what any mature adult can do. Speak your mind patiently and calmly. Do it during a time when she's open and relaxed and he's not around. There isn't much you can do more than that when a loved one gets with an abusive man--you can't live their lives for them. You can tell him you don't appreciate the way he treats your grandmother and that you insist he treats her with respect in front of you.
Other than that......the answer no one likes to hear is that it's your grandmother's life. It's sad she wants to deal with that kind of misery but be there for her as much as you can. Sadly, she'll probably never leave the guy. Hopefully he will leave her soon enough.
I'm not sure I understand that well? Are you truly worried about her or only about the fact that you aren't getting all the attention anymore. You grandmother obviously feels happy with the new boyfriend, whether he is treating her as you think he should, it is ultimately her choice and it would be unfair for you to put pressure on her to leave him. Surely you don't want her to be alone for the rest of her life?
I suggest you leave this, if he is really abusing her, then tell her, but I think that it is time to grow up and realise that your granmother isn't suppose to jump over the moon for you everytime.
So am suppose tio stand there and watch the physicalk metal and emtional abuse he does to her, she's too afraid t te;ll him how she really feels an it hurts be when she allows another man who has no blood connection to call me out my name, So yes I feel she should still jump over the moon, because countless times when he mistreated her I surley had hher back 100% and I can bnot even get a dnt say that to her. Thats how I feel, misery shouldn't be covered up a "ove"
Well you guys, I talked to her and I did it, she said she had no idea how this was reflecting us as a family, and offically the boyfriend is moving out!!!! So thanks you guys.
If he is really treating her that badly, just come out and tell her. Invite her for coffee and ask her if she is really happy and then take it from there.
Thats the sad part.
