How can I tell my grandma that I can not stand her disrespectful bf?

So am suppose tio stand there and watch the physicalk metal and emtional abuse he does to her, she’s too afraid t te;ll him how she really feels an it hurts be when she allows another man who has no blood connection to call me out my name, So yes I feel she should still jump over the moon, because countless times when he mistreated her I surley had hher back 100% and I can bnot even get a dnt say that to her. Thats how I feel, misery shouldn’t be covered up a “ove”

If he is really treating her that badly, just come out and tell her. Invite her for coffee and ask her if she is really happy and then take it from there.

All you can do is what any mature adult can do. Speak your mind patiently and calmly. Do it during a time when she’s open and relaxed and he’s not around. There isn’t much you can do more than that when a loved one gets with an abusive man–you can’t live their lives for them. You can tell him you don’t appreciate the way he treats your grandmother and that you insist he treats her with respect in front of you.

Other than that……the answer no one likes to hear is that it’s your grandmother’s life. It’s sad she wants to deal with that kind of misery but be there for her as much as you can. Sadly, she’ll probably never leave the guy. Hopefully he will leave her soon enough.

Thats the sad part.

Well you guys, I talked to her and I did it, she said she had no idea how this was reflecting us as a family, and offically the boyfriend is moving out!!!! So thanks you guys.