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Goth Mom Hiding From PTA

I am a natural gothic. 24 years old and dying inside because the system judges you as a mother. I am trying to find ways to be who I am without judgement. I look up “gothic mom” and get a bunch of kids acting as if “gothic” was a choice or sylish thing, and their moms won’t “let” them be. HELP! Someone with wisdom who is not judgemental. PLEASE

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Answer #1

Yeah I think amblessed hit that one on the head. That being said I am sure I will do plenty of things I will keep from my kids.

I did try to look up natural goth to get a better idea of what you might be feeling. All I got was photos of buildings, I highly doubt that was what you were saying you are. Should you actually be a building, your typing is impressive. If not you are really faced with three choices.

1)keep on wearing and doing what you like, just be ready to face some ridicule/dirty looks for it. 2)dress “normal” when out and about, but dress as you like when amoungst close friends with the same views on styles as you. 3)give it up and be “normal” like everyone else.

Your choice there, but a lot can be said for “normal” parents or at least children having the impression that they have relatively normal parents. I can say that should I ever actually see a woman in full goth get up trying to breast feed a baby, or making the little funny faces to make the baby laugh I am going to stare because it’s up there on the list of things I thought I would never see.

Answer #2

I know a mother who’s “gothic” (: Nothing wrong with it. Don’t let your fashion sense get in the way of raising a child, that’s ridiculous - not on your behalf, but on people judging you for it.

Answer #3

Wear what you want to wear as long as it is appropriate. So, if you like dark colors, go for it. Is the entire look appropriate for an office setting, probably not, is it appropriate for a PTA meeting, no it is not, see where I’m going with this? Your personal style is no ones business. However, there is a time and place for personal expression… As long as you stick to that time and place, feel free to dress however you want… And ignore the judgmental idiots. Who wants to be friends with mindless drones any how? This is a quick and efficient way of cutting out people you wouldnt want in your life in the first place… But for the sake of your kids, try and dress appropriately when it is called for…

Answer #4

unfortunantly thats what people do if you look different they judge you I have 34 piercings, blue/purple hair and wear 20 year old band tees and ripped jeans that I customise most people judge me people who stand out from the crowd tend to get judged more but really, so you wear black that doesnt make you any less human, or unable to care for your children your style of dress doesnt affect anything you do its just the way you dress everyone has it, all you can really do is just ignore them, or fight back if you have to dont let them judging you affect your life because its not worth it you know your a good mother, and you should know that people who worry about the way you dress arnt worth your time

Answer #5

you’re a young mother. it’s going to be ok. Gothic is still a very new trend when you think about it on a larger scale. you are one of the first of our generation to be a mom with kids in school. just be yourself and the times will catch up. I mean I’m sorta goth-punk, and I wouldn’t change just to make the PTA happy. there will be more moms like you in the near future.

Answer #6

Seems common sense would dictate if you’re bothered by their reaction, don’t project that image.

Answer #7

who cares dont try so hard 2 get nto pta it never had any good ideas