Giving birth does not make somebody a parent. Loving and caring for them does. I haven't seen my real mom in 7 years. I have a little brother I have never met. I have trouble remembering what her voice even sounded like sometimes. She dropped me off at a gas station when I was 4 and told my dad's girlfriend I was there if she wanted me. How does giving birth make her a parent? It doesn't. You need to earn that title. My dad's girlfriend (now my mother) has taken care of me since then. (I'm 20 now) I saw my real mom again, but after 13 I haven't seen her. My step mom is my parent, and she always will be. I love her like she was my own mother. You love your son.... it doesn't matter if he came out of you or not. He's still your son. You loved him and took care of him when his own mother wouldn't. That's admirable. You deserve to be called his mother. People who say otherwise don't look at the bigger picture and don't think about things before they say that.
no u should get mad because parenting is not only HAVING the child it involves RAISING the child and the mere fact that he calls you "mommy" is a sign that u r a good parent to him regardless if he is not biologically urs. As long as u treat him as if he was ur own child and nurture him and raise him properly he is URS. for those people who say he's not ur child... they should say that to the biological mother who ABANDONED him because "biologically" she is the mother but really she wasn't a mother to him YOU were...
I don't think giving birth is a guarentee of parenting skills...look at all those adoptive parents out there. And...that's what you are....basically an "adoptive parent"...His mom might be the biological parent...but NO ONE will ever call her a "parent"..she has not given anything of herself to this child...and YOU are a mom...you have taught, raised, cared for this child. Tell those who say that that popping a kid is the easy part....and you've taken on the hard part of parenting.
i guess i should give a lil background to this question. my ex and i met when his son was a year old. the boys mother had abandoned him and left state. i picked up as mommy. i cared for him everyday for two years he even calls me mommy. even tho we have split up i have continued my relationship with my son. so is it wrong when i get mad when people tell me he's not really my kid just bc he;'s not biologically mine?
There is a difference legally between a mother and a mother figure. Unfortunetly you never made it legal. It isn't wrong to get angry when people say you aren't his mother but you should understand that even though you are emotionally his mommy legally you do not have any parental rights. Keep up the good work though! A loving mommy is exactly what he needs.
almost anyone can be a parent in the genetic sense of the word. Not everyone is capable of the love and effort it takes to carry out the verb parenting. You sound like you provide your son with the love and support he need so yes, it is very understandable that it makes you made when people undermine your efforts with a genetic technicality
i dont think it makes u less of a parent.i think ur an awsome mother.u took care of him lik ur own son wen the other didnt.not many ppl could do that even after u guys split.u are a great mom=]
i think you've gotta right to get kinda upset. (: