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Girlfriend Is Selfish Towards My Needs

I have been with my girlfriend for a year and I am bored out of my life sexually. I have had many girlfriends before and I have had some experience but my girlfriend hasnt had any because I am her first real boyfriend. But anyway…I have been with her for a year and I have been slow and patient with her. We started off just kissing and it was cool and all at first. It took us four months before we could even touch each other, she would not let me touch her and she would not touch me. After the four months we began touching and masturbating each otha and it was cool and we just lost our virginity to one another about a month ago. Things have improved a lot but it sucks because its like she calls all of the shots and I cant have things my way. She tells me when we are going to do it, how we are going to do it, etc. Its like shes scared to try new things.There is like a list of things we can do in sex and a long as list of things we cant do in sex and really its starting to get boring. Honestly…I need a freak in my life. And then the thing that kills me is…she wont give me head. Damnit im a teenage boy with hormones and needs!!! She gets upset because she says I wont go near her vagina which I WOULD do and dont mind but she treats my penis like its contagious and I have only been with her. And it sucks because she is my girlfriend and I am supposed to do this stuff with her but I cant. And there is otha girls out there who is trying to do stuff wit me but I turn them down because im loyal to my girl but she is messing up and isnt handling her business. So what am I to do? What do you do when you cant do the stuff with your girl? Help please!

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Answer #1

first, about your girlfriend: I say she’s being a bit slow and controlling. you do deserve to make relationship choices sometimes. you’re not just there to satify her and just make her happy. it’s supposed to be a 2 way street. I say let her know that you feel like she is getting more out of the relationship than you r. try 2 be calm about it not accusatory or demanding, cause that wud freak her out. for the sake of all that is beatiful in the world. it took 4 months for you guys to touch. come on now, if she really liked you, she wouldn’t be so sensitive about you touching her, the least she could do was touch you if she wanted to call the shots, damn. I agree, I’m a girl and ithink that;s outrageous, even if you are her 1st boyfriend. by the way, a list?! come on now, is that a way to live?

about you now: I say you’re being a bit selfish, just a tad. you guys just lose yur virginity 2 each other, head isn’t something 2 rush into. give it time, yur just a teenager. if you r that unhappy with her pace, just talk to her about it, you guys should take turns leading and such, not her taking charge and not caring about yur needs.

p.s. it’s not like yur her love slave. you need to take charge and let her know that that’s not how relationships work.

Answer #2

dump he a$$ if shes selfish den wats da point of calling her a girlfriend a relationship/couple is suppose to be like no more mes and way more uses so if she’s still a me den she wshould be single (but if it’s hard for you 2 get a girl den you should try talking to her)

Answer #3

how old ru? a teen, seriously. what kind of needs do you have that you cant do by yourself??? anywho. just give her time

Answer #4

I say give her time maybe eat her out first then take turns

Answer #5

wow she seems like a real bich sorry but she does!!! try to talk fo her an tell her how you feel mabye she don’t feel comftrable or she is waiting for you to eat her out first im not sure she seems way to bichy ima girl sure im afraid of giveing my man head but just talking with him helps he never got head before so id be his first to do so…anyways I always love it when a man just sureprises me dureing se an takes controlle so if she going to be soo bich dumb her a$$

Answer #6

Angelfire why are you upset lol chill man wtf.

And dude just talk to her about it seriously. if things don’t work out then maybe you two aren’t meant to date now.

I’m in the same situation except I haven’t gotten anything more than touching. so be grateful dude. there are less lucky guys out there than you.

Answer #7

You are being the selfish one !! You act like your married, and your wife isnt giving you what you want! Maybe a reason for divorce, but for heavens sake…SHES ONLY A GIRLFRIEND! If you want a freak in the bedroom, then obviously she isnt the girl for you. For your info Bud, no girl HAS to give her boyfriend anything sexually if she doesnt want to!

**And it sucks because she is my girlfriend and I am supposed to do this stuff with her but I cant.There is NO rule that says a girlfriend is suppose to do whatever her boyfriend wants her to do.

I seriously cant believe KIDS today, and how they treat sex! God gave you two hands… USE ‘EM!

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