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I love spending time with my father. So we went to the movies to hang out today. He only stayed for the first 5-10 minutes before he told me he'll be right back. he came back about 1 hr and 15 min later and stayed for about 5 minutes. then he told me he's gonna go use the restroom and wait for me outside. you guessed it. I was pissed. but more hurt that angry. I barely spent 4 hours with him in the last 6 weeks and he would ditch out like that. I asked him what was up. and all he said was nothing! I mean when I came out of the movies I heard him talking to his supposedly ex girlfriend. I mean I can understand if he told me [and I told him this] that is he busy then he could tell me what should I do? I've tried talking to him and other forms of communication. but he seems to be so AWOL all the time.
I understand how this can make you feel, I remember when my Dad first divorced my Mum, he used to come round on the weekends, and I remember one time,I was spending time with him, which we rarely did, and he ditched me all of a sudden, and he drove away, talking to his girlfriend on the phone, and didn't come back for hours. I remember that really hurt.
You could try talking to him again, saying how it hurt you so much... I never did. Instead, we sorted it out so that we now visit him every fortnight for a day and a half, but still when his girlfriend comes round he kinda blancs me... and that hurts... but I haven't got round to telling him that...
I dont like talking to him about stuff like that because he always contradicts all of my arguements, and doesn't accept that he is doing something wrong. I think that you just need to find away that suits you...
All the best
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Tell him how being ditched made you feel...this might open up the dialogue...there's a possiblity, that once you're talking about it, and you find out what he was up to for that hour, he might have had a good (selfish, yes), but a good reason to be gone.
At least this way, he'll know how being deserted on your day together makes you feel...that's better than holding it in, and resenting him.
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Say If your not going to spend time with me, forget it, don't come seeing me.
Or explain how you feel.
