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My mom and i don’t have not even a dollar.She is going to welfare this week but everything has just been so horrible.My parents are getting divorced which is a good thing because i can’t stand them together.My dad is out of the picture now.My mom keeps trying to sorta push all this on me by saying its my fault.How is it my fault when i didn’t marry him?This summer was the worst summer of my life.I didn’t do a thing.All my other friends are out having fun and i can’t go out because i don’t have any money.Im loosing control.Plus i feel there are more problems in my life.I always worry about things that may be wrong with me but in the end there is nothing.I don’t have too many close friends only one and me and her aren’t exactly getting along lately.My mom stormed out of the house just because i was mad about my life and wanted to talk to her.Please help anyway you can.Thanks.

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Answer #1

Divorce is VERY VERY tough for all persons involved, and all too often the feelings of others are ignored. Sounds to me like your mum is angry, not at you specifically, but at the situation she finds herself in and a general feeling of hopelessness and failure. This is a common stage for BOTH parties in divorce to go through…. you need to hang on in and focus on the light at the end of the tunnel… it WILL work out. I am sorry to say but there will be some tough days ahead for you. Is there a friend you can trust close by? I mean REALLY REALLY trust, so you can confide in her… of course it is not YOUR fault, you are just the nearest person to blame. I hope welfare can ease the pressure you are both under, but not sure I understand the USA system completely. True friends will empathize with your situation and help in ANY way they can. Sorry you had a rotten summer, hope this helps :-)

Answer #2

im so sorry .

Answer #3

thanks.and i do have a best friend and she knows everything in my life pretty much,but everytime i ask her for advice she always says i don’t know.

Answer #4

Im not looking for people to feel sorry for me but do you have any advice for me ?

Answer #5

yeah, really you need someone who has been thru all this b4. My advice at the moment would be not to tell your mom how bad your summer was and how u r feeling cos that will only make her feel worse… tell your friend these things anyway. Regarding your mom, can you say ‘mom I feel like you are blaming me for all this?’ and if she shouts at you ask her to please not shout or get up quietly and leave the room. Also be there for her when she is sad or crying and let her know that you both will be ok and get thru this together… not easy I know, but try to control your actions/feelings/behavior in front of your mom.

Answer #6

Firstly,i am sorry about it,but this is the time when you have to be very strong.As you know your mother is going through very difficult times,you have to support her and accept her anger.Right now she needs you and even if she yells at you,you should know how difficult is this. Right now i can advice you to find a job for you,it will really help you alot right now.

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