I turn 18 in 3 months and want to move out right now, I have a verbally abusive stepfather and mom, I tried to leave one night and they said they will call the cops and send me away to a facility for the rest of my time of being 17... Can they do this? I go to school full time and work enough support myself, I have a family member who said they will let me move in until I graduate or basically whenever I feel like leaving. I have good grades and a very good job, I don't do any drugs and don't drink alcohol. My mom says that me and my biological dad have no say in this. My stepfather recently blew up and punched stuff in the house, yelled/cursed at me and at one point told me to get the f*ck out of his house. A few questions I have are..
If I feel like its an unsafe environment, why wouldn't I have a say in where I go?
Am I able to get a restraining order on my stepfather?
Can they really send me to a facility until I turn 18?
Am I considered "incorrigible" for my actions telling them I hate living there and I'm leaving?
It's always so hostile in that house and I want to leave. I feel like my life would be a lot healthier if I could just go to work, go to school, then go to a place where I can feel relaxed and safe, and don't have to worry about being yelled at for nothing.
-Why did they do this if I sound like i'm a normal responsible person? Because I guess I'm disrespectful to them because I'm not home often so they feel like I avoid them. Well when im at school and work from 8am to 9pm, what do they expect? I spend my weekends with my girlfriend because its my only free time, I don't relate to anything my mom or stepdad like, we have very different interests, which is why I don't really feel like killing time on my weekends with them.. Am I in the wrong here or what should I do?!
Well you mr almost 18 and you do have a say. Like especially if your mom and stepfather is treating u bad. Im 19 and when 18 I did leave my house for a month but then came back and I left when I was 17 for like 3 days and my mom more my stepfather called anyone... And I left because of family issues we were having. And yea if you get enough evidence to the police of the way your stepfather is treating you then you are able to get a restrain order. And no they can't send you to a facility because you have a family member who is willing to keep you with them under there roof. I think you shouldn't show fear to your stepfather and leave somewhere safe. Its ridiculous how you can stand all the BULLSH** that hes giving you. Few times I have fought with my stepfather and well I always talk back and FIGHT DIRTY. I wouldn't let no one talk to me like that. LEAVE while you can and put a restraining order against him but get evidence first. Record him secretly. Take it to the police station. You seem like a nice guy and I wouldn't want you to get hurt by him. GOOD LUCK!!
move in with your family member.... im suprised you havent moved already... i swear some people shouldent be parents i dont at all blame you for wanting out cause who wants to be home when all there parents do is yell at them there just immature... and superrr selfish like you are busy and if they did care enough that you werent spending time with them then im sure theyd ask to hangout with you but maybe they have issues when they grew up that makes them act that way... just move out... n once you 18 you dont ever have to talk to either of them.
I'm glad i am not the only one. I say get the hell out of there. You have a right to be unsafe.