Emotinally Tired

One of the problems with being a teenager, especially a female one, is that people tend to think it is a phase and you’re being dramatic. Now, with the emotional part, there’s emotional regulation techniques, but the ones I can think of all need the guidance of a therapist. What you could try is meditation. It teaches you to focus on something, so if you’re becoming emotional, you can reign it back. There’s also something called mindfulness. It’s where you learn to observe your thoughts and feelings non-judgmentally and just accept them. You might want to read up on that. Then there’s also relaxation techniques. All this stuff takes work. If you’re just naturally emotional, and you’ve learnt to react in certain ways, it’s going to take work. As for the coping with people you love, well there’s a couple of things you can do. First, you need to have more than one person who you unburden yourself too. It becomes too much for your boyfriend if he is your only lifeline. You have to understand, that when people call you dramatic, part of it is an unwillingness to accept that you could be in pain, because they love you and it hurts them. It is so much easier to brush you aside and call you dramatic, than have to deal with that pain. Same thing if they’re on overload from your constant pain. They need to take a step back, and this is how they manage to get away from it. So, find a good friend who you can confide in. Secondly, try to stick to feeling statements that are not overly dramatized. If you say “I feel”, then it’s a little hard to argue with you. What are they going to say, no you dont feel? You’re allowed your feelings, and you can remind them that just as you are there for them emotionally, you need them to sit and listen and be there for you, not tell you how, or whether you should be feeling a particular emotion. This is going to be met with resistance. You’re not only showing a mature attitude, but you’re also changing the rules of your relationships. People dont like the rules being changed on them. So, just bear with it, your communication should get better.

I honestly think you should talk to a therapist though. S/he’ll be able to do a lot better job at working on your communication and emotional regulation, and see if there’s any underlying causes here (like depression).