I recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend of 2 years (yes Im using protection, please don't judge me) and I really love him and he loves me, After we had sex we watched a zombie movie. Iv'e been having these nightmares about zombies and zombie apocalypes, theyre really scary but the zombies aren't doing any harm to me. Im really close to my mom and I think that deep down I feel really guilty even though I don't regret my decision. please help, is it just guilt?
I think it's the unconscious 'shock' of doing it the first time followed by the shocks from the Zombie movie which together are manifesting in your dreams. . Dreams don't usually indicate anything, they are more irrational. The mind though, tries to 'rationalize' everything to have everything make 'sense', so it projects interpretations and attaches meanings to things and experiences which don't already make sense from the get go. . Your mind is rationalizing and projecting your insecurities whenever it finds a void or a blurry unclear unrationalized place for doing so. .
Don't worry, every one does it at some point or other - it's absolutely human to be engaging in intimacy with someone you deeply love :) You don't have to feel guilty or judged, no one has any right to slop their judgments on you. . More over anything, don't think of it like a 'negative' or 'remorseful' experience, cause if you do, your mind will anchor the feelings of 'guilt', 'remorse' and 'negativity' to the experience - then whenever you have it again in the future, the mind will automatically elicit negative feelings about it in your heart. . You were really responsible to be using protection and sharing such an experience with someone you've been with for more than 2 years! - That's FAR better than what most people do these days. Think of it like a positive experience - cause it really is :) . --Andrew
You might be feeling guilty about it because you're afraid of what your mom will think of you. Don't worry though, it's totally normal. Just make sure you stay protected and get on birth control because condoms can break! :/
You slept with someone you genuinely like? You played it safe? You don't regret it? What's to feel remorseful about? hell count yourself amongst the lucky few who's first time wasn't an utter disaster with an utter disaster.
It might be and it might not be. Strong emotions can manifest itself in rather odd ways in our dreams. If you felt a strong bit of guilt then it very well be because you feel guilty.
i can't use birth control, my family has really bad history with it. i am staying protected tho "dont be silly wrap your willy" haha :)