My mom blames everything on me! She lost her check: My fault. The baby won't take his bottle: My fault. My little brother got a stain on his shirt: MY FAULT! I hate it and talking won't help! I try so hard to be better and make her happy but it doesn't work. She needs the copy of her check to get food help, and doesn't want to admit SHE lost it..... and just now my dad asked me if I wanted another pancake, but I had already put my plate up. He knew that, and I went to grab a clean plate, and my mom started screaming that I could use the one I used before, which was in the dirty dish water. I swear she is trying to make my life miserable. Is there any way to stop her from blaming me? Thanks ahead of time guys.
Ya Mum sounds like she is stressed...but not with you...She is just doing what some do when stressed and give it to others...And anyone who gets in the way ,will get some of her stress...an with stress,it builds up.
Of course it would be great to tell her how unhappy you are and her listen about the way she is acting but i really dont think someone soo stressed should have others problems loaded on top of theres,I know she is ya mam and she if not so stressed i am sure cares so much...But stress is like an illness and she needs help by the sound of it,not more problems...How about take a different approach for a week or so and tell her you are worried about her and want to help in what ever way ...if she is stressed with houswork help...if its life then make it nicer for her somehow,flowers or run her a bath or bring her breakfast in bed ,spoil her,do something that will make her smile and i bet it helps ...good luck.
Sounds like she has some issues that she's directing at you. It stinks, I know!
You got to understand that some people are just unhappy and look for any reason to blow up in someone's face. Don't take it personal or at least, try not to.
I wonder what your dad has to say about this? Have you tried talking to him about it? Maybe he could talk to her about not lashing out at you? However, if you prefer to do it on your own, wait for a time when she's cool and collected.
You can start off by saying something like,"Mom, I really need to talk to you about how I've been feeling lately, you've got a minute?"
That is so sad! You don't deserve to be treated like that. I know parents can get very stressed over things but it is wrong to take it out on your children. I was going to advise you to write her a nice letter also, but if you have already tried that, I guess that is not the solution. I think I would ask your Dad for and Father and Daughter day out. I would tell him how you feel and ask him for advise as to how to handle your Mom. BE SURE you do not let her actions to reflect on how you feel about yourself. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Don't forget that!
You could write a letter to her about how you feel and give it to her when she's calm since confronting her would probably turn into a fight.
I have tried multiple times to write her letters, and gave up on it last time when she blew up at me for it.... thanks anyways...
I will be trying that next time me and her go somewhere together, because that is when she is least irritable.
He's disabled... so that's kinda not possible...
Ok good. Keep me posted :))