So, I'm 14 and I was adopted when I was 8. Ever since I was about 9, my mom had been slapping my mouth whenever I did anything 'wrong.' It was worse when I was younger (I'm not going to go into that, though, because the past is the past) but even now she slaps my mouth, and yanks my hair back, even when I don't answer a question. My lips have gotten swollen, and I get a few scrapes when I'm in the bathroom and she slaps me, causing me to fall against the counter. I admit, I may have an 'attitude' sometimes (like Saturday, for instance, she caught me on the computer when I shouldn't have been and then she went into my room without asking, and I said that she shouldn't) but she tells me that all kids get their mouth slaped when they do something wrong. I don't know if I should put the number for Child Protective services in the bathroom when this happens, and just run and lock the door when this happens...) Some advice? And IS this child abuse? My dad also does nothing about it, and my sister has confronted him about it, but she doesn't really do anything about it and neither does my Dad. :/
According to childwelfare.gov, child abuse is "non-accidental physical injury (ranging from minor bruises to severe fractures or death) as a result of punching, beating, kicking, biting, shaking, throwing, stabbing, choking, hitting (with a hand, stick, strap, or other object), burning, or otherwise harming a child, that is inflicted by a parent, caregiver, or other person who has responsibility for the child. Physical discipline, such as spanking or paddling, is not considered abuse as long as it is reasonable and causes no bodily injury to the child." Here's a link to the website: http://funadvice.com/r/15ucg5jhbp5. I think the fact that you're actually getting scratches and bruises might be considered child abuse. (In my view, it definitely is). Your mom is wrong about how all kids get their mouths smacked when they do something wrong.
It's rough, but it's not child abuse. Childeren need to be disciplined no matter what. I mean, I'm 16 I'm not trying to patronize as almost everyone does on the subject. But it is just tough discipline. It'd be child abuse if it were more extreme or if she did that when you truly didn't do anything wrong. Don't overreact. In my opinion, if you want this to stop try to be as good as possible and apologize and stuff like that. You know. I did that for a brief stint as a younger child but once I treated my parents with respect I got no more punishment and/or mouth smacking. Please don't overreact. But this is not child abuse. Border line? Maybe. But definitely not child abuse. Based on this info. Hope I helped. :) it'll get better
I couldnt deal with that.. I would likely slap her @ss right back.. but thats just gonna cause big problems but i couldnt help myself. She can only take it that far. Your bigger now. There is no excuse to be slappin your child in the face. Honeslty my mom did one time when i was 14.. I slapped her back hard and she never did it again. Although i was kicked out for a while. My cousin used to have his daddy beat the crap outta him all his life until he got bigger.. Now he is huge and his daddy wont ever lay another hand on him. Its not cool. Children are defensless
Yes, it is Child Abuse. No parent has the right to hit their child, ever! Even spanking your child is against the law now. She can't slap you, expetially if she is causing you to fall against the counter or leaving marks on you. Thats not okay, you need to tell someone, if not the Child Protective service, then the parent of a friend, someone you trust, they will be able to help some what and know what to do. But she has no right to touch you at all. Good luck <3
I wouldn't call CPS because foster care and all that jazz is much, much worse than your situation (my mom works for CPS). my mom has slapped my mouth when I had an attitude when I was younger, but she's never punched me or caused me to bruise or bleed. If your mom gives you bruises and makes you bleed and beats you, then you should get help. If she slaps your mouth when you talk back, then that just seems like discipline to me.
It is considered child abuse, when I was in elementary school these people came to our school often and did a puppet show about all the kinds of abuse. They said if a mark is left on you (bug or small whatever) it is automatically child abuse. You need to call services before it gets as far as you being in the hospital or something else !
i agree if this begins to get way out of hand call DYFS but dont do it until u think u r n real danger they can take away ur parents and trust me youll miss them so much youll start 2 wish ur mom was there even if she was smacking u
Parents can use reasonable force when using discipline - what she told us is not reasonable force. It is abuse and she shouldn't have to live with it. Natalie - call CPS ... nobody has the right to hurt you like that.
I agree, she should smack her mom back ;)
Thanks for the advice, everyone! :[