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I think some things are meant to be private...you are forgetting the world we live in today is different from the times way back when our parents were growing up. I mean some parents can accept it & are cool with it again depending on their age...but you have to understand that it isnt their fault that is just the way they were raised. When you are brought up in a certain way & told what or how to act & then you grow up you have the right to change the way you see things...in their eyes that is considered taboo...in our eyes, it's become the norm...but they still cant accept that!
Here is something i will share with you guys...i know it is not the same...but it's a lesson learned.... When i was growing up I knew i had a learning disability, they had me tested but my parents refused to accept what was probably said...instead my mother twisted the words making it out to be that i was just lazy rather then admitting that I was less then perfect with dyslexia... What is the point to this story...well parents have a hard time accepting things that arent considered the norm in their books...meaning bi sexuality or anything of the sort and are very homophobic... why? because they were taught that it was a sin...went against everything they were taught in their religious beliefs...(no matter what your belief is) In their eyes, in god's eyes, a man was created beside a woman for a reason not 2 men or 2 women 1 vs 1...so in their eyes, that is just not acceptable! Thank god today we are a lot more liberal, some parents are cool about it & just understand that no matter what their sexuality is, they are still their kids! You raised them & taught them right from wrong, and in sex there is no right & wrong because what may be right to one may not be to another...we all have different fetishes & get pleasure in different ways! Is that a sin, no, because we know that & accept that & can relate to that...but they dont...& they cant!
If you think your parents are able to accept it...then tell them...just one day have a cup of coffee & just sit them down & say it...but if they cant handle it or you think they may be bios to it then just dont! Just like they keep some secrets deep in their hearts about their private things...so can you!
good luck no matter what you decide to do! Hope this helped.
I told my friend on facebook chat. I just said that I was bi and she is totally ok with it cos her boyfriend is bi too :) I just said to my bestest friend whilst she was hugging me (she's really sweet and loves hugs! :D ) 'I have to tell you something.' she said 'ok' and I went ' I'm bisexual.' A day later she told me she was bi too because me telling her gave her the confidence to come out :) Me and my friends love g@ys and bis. We've made a pact that we'll break friends with any other friends if they become homophobic. After that, I just went around yelling to my other 20 friends and the general public of the school; 'I'M BI - I'M BI!!.' I have no dignity. :) My headteacher was very surprised to see me running along shouting this. xD Still yet to tell my father... :S
My mom found out i was bisexual and an athiest from my myspace page when i was 16 years old. She stormed in my room called me a sinner said that if i didnt follow the bibles rules about ho.mosex.uality then i could not live in her household. She kicked me out and after living with several different shady people i eventually ended up homeless sleeping in my car for over 6 months. It took years for her to accept me and for us to have a relationship, if i had my choice she never would have known until i was older and out on my own.
Oh my God! I'm so sorry :( I told my mom the first time and she told me it was just a phase. Then I told her again a year later and she told me the same thing but I kept insisting that no, I was in a relationship and... well she's just having a hard time but I let it go. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
sorry to hear that you had to go through all that...
good luck sweetie!