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What is causing my daughter to not like her dad?

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He has seen her about 4 times in her little 4 years at about 20 minute intervals.
He took me to court for visitations ( because I got tired of the droping in once a year, so on 12/25/2009 I did not answer the door.)  
He was granted on august 4 2010 for the first 2 saturdays 2 hours of visitation, then it went to 4 hours for the rest of the saturdays until our next court date on october 4 2010. 
He is not a bad guy, but after the second time she went with him she has been saying things like " I don't want to go to my dads, I only want you"  And tears were rolling down her face I could tell that she was stressing about going with him. She then started asking if other people could watch her, she went down the list of names ( grandma and grampa best, our close neighbor ect.)  So my girlfriend ended up staying at home with her.  And we encouraged her that her dad is a good guy and he loves her.  We ended up having a visitation with myself and my girlfreind present to make her feel more comfortable, we were also present for the indroducton and the first 2 visits. But we noticed that she does not interacted with him at all, we thought that we were distracting her from getting to know him.

The next saturday was heartbreaking for my girlfreind and jazmyn( heather has helped me raise her for the past 3 years and in those three years has been around her everyday.) Brandon and Heather had to physically use force to peel her off of heather. So this past saturday when I was at work my girlfreind took her ovet to see him at a football feild across from her parents house ( jazmyns grandma and grampa best) And she was doing fine until she tought that he was gonna take her. Heather told me that when it started to thunder and lighting Brandon said to his girlfrien " Alright lets go get in the car" as soon as Jazmyn said that she yelled "IM NOT GOING" and ran across the feild to her grandma and grampa best house. Heather chased after her to reassure her that she was not going. Brandon then went home. I came home from work at 5;30 pm and called brandon to come and hang out with us. When he arrived jazmyn was just waking up from her nap. The first thing she said to him was " I don't want to go with you" (emotionaly) Brandon said I'm not taking you I just want to see you. Jazmyn said "No" I took her to the bathroom to clean her up and she said " mom, what is he doing here?" I said your dad is hanging out with us tonight sweetie" she said " I don't want him to hang out" I'm blown away by the things she has been saying. We need more advice to turn this into a comfortable situation for her ( since it is court ordered) other wise I would not force her to see him every saturday.

So he was granted visitation, it started out at 2 hours for the first 2 weeks, then it went to 4 hours. That was granted on august 4 2010, our next court date is october 4 2010.
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