what can anyone say bout if ur parents r tryin to get ur kids to not like ur bf?

Have you tried talking to your parents about why they dislike your boyfriend? In all honesty, when the people who love you dislike the person your with and behave this way they are seeing something your not. Your parents love and care about you so if there is something about this guy that they dislike or are afraid for its normal for them to find ways to object. Talk to them and find out what it is, and then actually take the time to look at the situation and figure out if they are right. When you have kids you cant just settle for any guy because this guy is a part of their lives and will have an affect on how they are raised also. If you talk to them and you dont agree in the end, just politely tell them not to use your kids against you and any problems they may have should be told to you and not your kids.

My parents r basically upset becuz I don’t make him spend more time with them, him and I have long distance relationship as it is, we barely get to c each, he has never done anything to hurt or disrespect me in any way, he is a wonderful man, I think my mother may b jealous becuz him and I r closer than she and I. My mother and I have nevr been close

if ur mom is upset that u are closer to ur boyfriend than you are to her, then you can spend more time with her by doing simple things such as going to the mall, eating at a restaurant, talking about your day at school, etc. anything to make a conversation with her is all you need. also, if your parents want to spend more time with them, maybe all they want to do is get to know him a little more. let your parents chat with him for a bit about what he’s been up to and how he’s doing. your parents are probably just curious about the relationship between u guys.

I don’t want to b closer to my mother, she has done me wrong in so many ways, but I still don’t think its right that she make my children try not to like someone they barely know

I would ask your parenst why there doing that & have a long convo wiht your kids about your boyfreind & tell your parenst hat its not there choice to choose for you ! (:

I don’t want to b closer to my mother, she has done me wrong in so many ways, but I still don’t think its right that she make my children try not to like someone they barely know

Thx good idea

does your mother want to be closer to you? are you closer to your father?

I don’t thin my mother cares for me to much, I think I may have been more than she cud handle, I don’t think she is a very good example of wat a mother shud b, everytime I find some peice of happiness she stripes it away, and when I need support she has never been thr

Oh. do you think it’s possible to keep your kids at a distance from your parents? that way, they dont have to hear negative talk about your bf. you could tell your kids good things about him so they forget the negative talk from your parents. if you can’t get away from your parents and your kids are older, then you could tell your kids that you didn’t get along with your mom, which is way she continues “bashing” him

Uhm you set boundaries and you explain what sort of behavior you will and will not tolerate around your children. Although if you were able to simply do that, you wouldn’t be asking this question. My advice, time to cut the apron strings and figure out you’re an adult who deserves respect. Whether they agree or not, it is not their place to do that. Quite frankly even if they are right about him, they have no right to try to influence you children. You’re an adult. Try to remember that.

Well thank u very much for the advice I will try it out