Has anyone adopted a child or given a child up for adoption? What sort of stress did you go through with doing this?
When I was seven years old I was taken away from my parents, it was the worst day of my life, they put me in so many foster homes and group homes were I was molested and mistreated and not fed, in one of the foster homes this lady would keep me and my brothers and sister locked up in the attic, we only ate once a day, she would keep us locked up in the room all day long, and never ever did she celebrate our birthdays, we couldn't even go outside to play, no t.v no nothing, believe me when I say this I wish someone would of took us in and took care of us, I haven't seen my mother since 1983, I am 31 years old and life for me has been hell, I then 2 years ago found out that she died in a horrible abusive way and what made me mad at my moms was that instead of her getting her act together and try to get us b ack she instead had more other kids and move out of states to take care of them so the state wouln't take those, I was so hurt I'm in foster homes and group homes being abuse and you are protecting your new kids, also when I was 17 years old I had 2 kids at the time and me as a idiot was in a relationship and the guy told me that he was going to leave me so I grabbed a bottle of tylenol and swallow them all, then I called my caseworker and told her what I just did, I didn't want to be dead and my kids be left alone while I'm dead, I was taken to the hospital were they thought I was going to die. I was there for a week when I woke up I had tubes in and out my mouth they were trying to save my organs cause the pills were damaging to my system, then my caseworker told me that they took my kids away from me it felt like somebody stab me in my heart, I cry and cry, the state are dirty people their dealings isnt right, I went to therapy and parenting classes to get my kids back then at the age of 18 I found out that I had ovarian cancer, I was so sick I couldn't take care of my self, I couln't stand on my own let alone bathe myself so this push me farther back into getting my kids back then I found out after the cancer that I was pregnant and they told me that if I didn't sighn my rights away that they would take my unborn child, so me being young and stupid I sighn my rights away, one of my daughter went with her grandmother and the other one went to a foster home, when I was about to sighn my rights away I cry the foster mother cry telling me that she would never keep my daughter away from me and once the adoption went threw she didn't keep her promise, this sh** hunted me for a long time and it still does till this day, I can't wait till I see my daughter again, but to you Ms, I wish you were around when I needed a home I'm sure you would of made a great mother, and god knows that there are a lot of kids who need home so my hat to you!
I've heard giving a child up for adoption causes a lot of pain and regret. My friend got pregnant and put the child up for adoption because she was only 16-years-old at the time. She tells me she still cries about it everyday because she had an instant connection with the baby, obviously, then she had to let it go. But, I guess its for the best sometimes. Better then killing it.
Sorry this isn't a personal experience, thought I would share it with you anyways.
As for adopting a child... I think its a great idea to adopt a child, theres so many without families and they should have a chance at life just like any other kid. I think its best to try and find out the parents name of the child because when they grow up, eventually they will want to find their parents. I think almost every adopted child wants to at some point and thats important for them to be able to do. Theres so many questions people should ask themselves though before adopting, its a process. I'm sure all the adoption places do a really good job at making sure the child will have a bright future. I plan on adopting when I get married. Its something I've always planned since I knew what adoption was.
They don't really fight about the bathroom much is alway's silly stuff like mom she's looking at me or mom she talking to me is the crassiest stuff they fight about that drives me crazy, the only time my household is quiet is when they are in bed then is just me and my t.v. I love watching me some t.v I'm addicted to my television.(smile)
HEY IF YOU EVER want to TALK I'M HERE IS NOT TOO MANY PEOPLE THAT I CAN TALK TO IS JUST A BUNCH OF KIDS WHO LIKE PLAYING GAMES AND DOESN'T WANT TO HAVE A DECENT CONVERSATION, YOU LOOK LIKE YOU MIGHT BE IN THE SAME AGE RANGE AS ME, IF YOU want to TALK ABOUT EVERYDAY LIFE LET ME KNOW!
Yes I was able to keep him I had six more kids since then, I'm older now and smarter now and I'll do anything to protect my kids cause I know what is like to be mistreated, my kids have everything that I never had and plus more they don 't never have to suffer like I did.
Aww its so sad to hear they are both still feeling such a loss. I hope their babys are in loving hands. I would love to adopt but we are trying for another bub. If I cant get pregnant though I may try to foster kids when mine are a little bit older.
THANK YOU I APPRECIATE THAT PEOPLE SEEMS TO FORGET WITH SO MANY KIDS IS LIKE HAVING A SECOND JOB, YOU CONSTANT GOTTA KEEP CLEANING, MAKING SURE THEY ARE ALL BATHE, THE LAUNDRY NEVER ENDS, AND ALL THE FOOD THAT I HAVE TO COOK IS TIRERING.
Wow that is a truelly sad story but I am glad you have shared this with us as people need to see the bad sides of the system. I thank you. xxx
Did you get to keep your 3rd baby?
Hey I know about cleaning I run 10 GIRL staff cleaning business and we have a few customers with 6 kids. Dont know how you do it. I take my hat off to you . lol
my stepsister gave a baby up for adoption 7 years ago and she still cries about it almost every night.
omg you had 6 more. Wow I bet you have fights on for the bathroom in the morning lol
Honey with 6 kids with you I think you deserve to have some quiet with your t.v lol