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What if I want back with the person who abused me?

I was in an abusive relationship - mentally and emotionally - nothing physical - but my bf has a really bad anger problem just like his dad. I know that I shouldn’t be with him - I know I deserve better, but I have been with him for 3 years and still love him and want him back. He promises that things will be different. What should I do - My parents say absolutely no. I’m 17 and a Junior in high School

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Dear sdupell, Sometimes we want what is familiar but not what is right. I am assuming he was your first love and perhaps only. There are time when we have to give ultimatums and this is one of them. He needs to go to anger management counselling. This should be a deal breaker…meaning if he doesn’t go and prove that he went then you can no longer have anything to do with him. YOu also need to go to counselling to find out why you have allowed him to be abusive to you. Emotional abuse is as bad as physical and sometimes worse. So you do deserve more and perhaps he is more without the anger but unless he is willing to get help than he isn’t going to change and you will always be in danger. You do deserve better and with counselling for yourself you will see just why you do and what you need to do to find that better person. Perhaps it is him after he has gone to counselling and has proven himself. Sue…good luck

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