14 and pregnant, Help please ! x

Heyy everyone, im 14 and pregnant and I have no idea what to do.. I dont want to tell my parents or my boyfriend but I no I’ll have to.. I’m pretty sure about keeping the baby as its apart of me now and I could never get rid of it.. If any of you are in or have been in the same situation.. or people just want to give me advice.. then pls do ! Im so lost and confused ): , x

Answer #1

definatly tell your boyfirned first, he has half the responsibity, it was his sperm that did this. you are young to raise a child so definatly think about adoption, and as for abortion…u should ask both your parents and your boyfriend even though it is ultimatily your decision they might have an opinion worth listening to. and if you do decide to keep it definatl talk to your mom, remeber shes gone through pregnancy before and can help a lot, shell be mad but wil give you support too. you shoulkd see a doctor too to make sure both you and they baby are okayy…

good luckk, I hope this helps…

I hope everything turns out okayy

:)

Answer #2

OKAY JUST BREATHE… you NEED TO TELL YOUR MOM… SHE MIGHT UNDERSTAND… DONT ABORT IT… BUT THINK ABOUT ADOPTION… ITS YOUR BODY DOH… TALK TO THE FATHER ALSO…

Answer #3

uh first off you got to tell someone. if you cant tell your parents or boyfriend then go to your school counselor… or have a friend pick you up so you can go to the doctors and see your options. and its up to you if you want to keep it but just know itll ruin your life. 14 is too young. how can you know if y0our boyfriend even loves you at that age?? you cant, at that age they just want to try it with anyone. sorry babes but you got to get help from real people that know you…not from this website. good luck !

Answer #4

Only you can decide what to do with your body and your baby. If you want to abort it, give it up for adoption, or keep it. It is your decision.

You HAVE to tell your parents asap. The longer you wait the more upset they will be that you have been hiding it from them. There is no easy to way to do it - you just have to be mature about the situation and be upfront with them. You need their help in whatever you decide more than you even know.

You need to do this NOW because you need to see an obgyn and get he proper test and medical attention that a pregnant woman needs. If you dont see one soon you are putting you and your baby at risk for health problems.

It’s time to be mature, act grown up, and just tell them and get it over with. Your life is about to get very difficult and this is only the first step.

Answer #5

tell your boyfriend first see what he thinks get him to come around to your house to tell your parents wid you an then go round to his house to tell his parents dont abourt it

Answer #6

okay this is just my opinion. DO NOT GET AN ABORTION!! TRY FOR ADOPTION!!

Answer #7

the best thing you can so know is to tell your parents they will under stand yes you should keep the baby no adoption you are now a mother and you will always be and you boyfriend should under stand if he dont find my profile and we can talk allie818 you will be fine I promise

Answer #8

I say that you should tell your boyfriend first, and then tell your parents together after that.

They’ll probably be mad, but you’re obviously expecting that since you’re reluctant to tell them. Tell them what you’re deciding to do, whether you want to keep it or not so that you can sort it out, and they’ll be able to support you :)

Answer #9

Unfortunately, this is one of those scary plunges in life that one has to take. You should tell your boyfriend and parents. It will be tough and some hard times ahead, but I’m sure you will receive some help. Just do what you need to do, for yourself and the child.

Answer #10

Sit down and tell your mom & dad together. They will be upset at first but ultimately they want what is best for you (their child/daughter). You know your parents best and you know whether it would be best if you tell them alone or with your boyfriend present (would they go off on him if he were there, initially?) If he has been supportive of you then you can relay that to them.

You have time to think about what you want to do with this child. Maybe that’s why God gave us 9 months to carry a baby. Pray for guidance.

There are a lot of people out there who can’t have children and would be good parents to this child. My prayers are with you.

Answer #11

Ok so im a father at the age of 17 I’ve already had 2 kids I know it sounds bad but I know what your going through as far as telling your parents go. I was 14 when I found out I got my girlfriend pregnant. When I told my parents I sat them down and just flat out told them I got her pregnant. Yes the were dissapointed in me but they were thankful that I told them. So I would advise you to just calmly tell them and they will be upset but It’s best to clear the air as soon as possible so they won’t call you a liar and what not.

Answer #12

see a gynaecologist…and if possible get aborption done…its too early for u./…

Answer #13

Heyy Guys, thanks for the advice :) it’s only be a couple of hours and already you’ve helped me so much! I called my boyfriend and told him I needed to tell him something so he came round and I broke the news to him.. I didnt no how he would react but he’s been really good.. We’ve discussed all the options and at the moment are hoping to keep it but realise we are both too young, so we’ll see how it goes.. We are hoping to tell both our parents within the next couple of days.. I pretty sure my mum will go mad, but hoping she’ll cool down and accept it after a while.. My dad will be more laid back and although he will probably be dissapointed at first, he’s always been very supportive of everything I do, Do you think I shud tell my dad first or both my parents together? I’m not worried about mine and Jamie’s (my b/f) relationship as we have been together 3 and a half years and we know we can get through this :) Keep sending the advice, All my love, Lianna_x x

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